David Rodriguez

For a man, a miscarriage is a particular kind of pain.

And if anyone is thinking, like, for a man, really?

Well, that's kind of the point, because even as I'm going through one of the most painful experiences of my life, I'm very aware that my wife is going through more pain, physical pain, the same loss that I'm feeling.

And also just society and gender things.

I don't really understand, but I know how real they are.

And the ticking clock.

It doesn't help they call it a geriatric pregnancy either.

I don't know.

The medical field needs like a marketing person or something.

And she didn't want to talk about it.

And that might serve a lot of men very well, but I'm a Berkeley beta male.

I talk about it.

That's how I go.

This isn't Iowa where she grew up.

And she's a stoic person.

She just conquers life.

And she didn't want to talk about it.

So I couldn't talk about it because I didn't want her to see me cry or anything like that.

And then you go into this post-miscarriage purgatory period where you can't plan anything.

You don't know what's going to happen.