David Sutcliffe

And there were certain things we intuited or were told directly that they didn't like about the way that we were. And so that betrayal process starts at a very young age. The primary survival strategy for any child is to stay in connection and favor with their caregivers. So they have no choice but to betray themselves. So that self-betrayal becomes a pattern. It becomes a way of being.

And there were certain things we intuited or were told directly that they didn't like about the way that we were. And so that betrayal process starts at a very young age. The primary survival strategy for any child is to stay in connection and favor with their caregivers. So they have no choice but to betray themselves. So that self-betrayal becomes a pattern. It becomes a way of being.

And there were certain things we intuited or were told directly that they didn't like about the way that we were. And so that betrayal process starts at a very young age. The primary survival strategy for any child is to stay in connection and favor with their caregivers. So they have no choice but to betray themselves. So that self-betrayal becomes a pattern. It becomes a way of being.

And so we believe that we have to betray ourselves in some way in order to stay in connection with other people. So the unconscious belief, when we do betray ourself or abandon ourself or don't speak our truth or give ourselves away, whatever happens,

And so we believe that we have to betray ourselves in some way in order to stay in connection with other people. So the unconscious belief, when we do betray ourself or abandon ourself or don't speak our truth or give ourselves away, whatever happens,

And so we believe that we have to betray ourselves in some way in order to stay in connection with other people. So the unconscious belief, when we do betray ourself or abandon ourself or don't speak our truth or give ourselves away, whatever happens,

phrase you want to use is what we're actually afraid of is the disconnection from from the other person which on a primal level is is a threat of course because we want to stay connected to the to the tribe we need to stay connected to other people to survive and so the illusion that we have to shatter is that you can actually stand on your own that you can tolerate the feelings of disconnection you can tolerate

phrase you want to use is what we're actually afraid of is the disconnection from from the other person which on a primal level is is a threat of course because we want to stay connected to the to the tribe we need to stay connected to other people to survive and so the illusion that we have to shatter is that you can actually stand on your own that you can tolerate the feelings of disconnection you can tolerate

phrase you want to use is what we're actually afraid of is the disconnection from from the other person which on a primal level is is a threat of course because we want to stay connected to the to the tribe we need to stay connected to other people to survive and so the illusion that we have to shatter is that you can actually stand on your own that you can tolerate the feelings of disconnection you can tolerate

saying something or doing something and feeling the disapproval from from your friend or from the world or from your spouse and that you're going to be okay like you're it's not going to kill you um the way the unconscious mind thinks it thinks it would as when you were a child and so that's not an easy thing to do first you have to understand that you are betraying yourself

saying something or doing something and feeling the disapproval from from your friend or from the world or from your spouse and that you're going to be okay like you're it's not going to kill you um the way the unconscious mind thinks it thinks it would as when you were a child and so that's not an easy thing to do first you have to understand that you are betraying yourself

saying something or doing something and feeling the disapproval from from your friend or from the world or from your spouse and that you're going to be okay like you're it's not going to kill you um the way the unconscious mind thinks it thinks it would as when you were a child and so that's not an easy thing to do first you have to understand that you are betraying yourself

Because it's so habitual very often, we don't. We're just left with a feeling of we're angry, resentful. We don't feel empowered in our life. The world out there is somehow controlling us and we're at effect to our environment. Those are all signs. that we are betraying ourselves. And so once you start to understand that, then you can take some self-responsibility.

Because it's so habitual very often, we don't. We're just left with a feeling of we're angry, resentful. We don't feel empowered in our life. The world out there is somehow controlling us and we're at effect to our environment. Those are all signs. that we are betraying ourselves. And so once you start to understand that, then you can take some self-responsibility.

Because it's so habitual very often, we don't. We're just left with a feeling of we're angry, resentful. We don't feel empowered in our life. The world out there is somehow controlling us and we're at effect to our environment. Those are all signs. that we are betraying ourselves. And so once you start to understand that, then you can take some self-responsibility.

And the question I ask in all these situations with betrayal, let's say, oh, I have a client show up. It's like, you know, I was betrayed. My girlfriend, my board, whatever, said this, did this. And the question I always ask is, was there a moment before the betrayal where you betrayed yourself? Like, was there some intuition, some instinct, something you wanted to say but you didn't say?

And the question I ask in all these situations with betrayal, let's say, oh, I have a client show up. It's like, you know, I was betrayed. My girlfriend, my board, whatever, said this, did this. And the question I always ask is, was there a moment before the betrayal where you betrayed yourself? Like, was there some intuition, some instinct, something you wanted to say but you didn't say?

And the question I ask in all these situations with betrayal, let's say, oh, I have a client show up. It's like, you know, I was betrayed. My girlfriend, my board, whatever, said this, did this. And the question I always ask is, was there a moment before the betrayal where you betrayed yourself? Like, was there some intuition, some instinct, something you wanted to say but you didn't say?

And every time there's always a yes. And it's like, well, why do you say it? Because I was afraid. Afraid of what? Well, afraid of how they're going to react. And so we all have that, right? And so it's just a practice. It's an awareness first and then a practice because it's the only way we really can be free.

And every time there's always a yes. And it's like, well, why do you say it? Because I was afraid. Afraid of what? Well, afraid of how they're going to react. And so we all have that, right? And so it's just a practice. It's an awareness first and then a practice because it's the only way we really can be free.