David Sutcliffe

And every time there's always a yes. And it's like, well, why do you say it? Because I was afraid. Afraid of what? Well, afraid of how they're going to react. And so we all have that, right? And so it's just a practice. It's an awareness first and then a practice because it's the only way we really can be free.

Otherwise, we're modulating our behavior based on the external world, based on how other people are going to react. We're caring what other people think, but it's really deeper than that.

Otherwise, we're modulating our behavior based on the external world, based on how other people are going to react. We're caring what other people think, but it's really deeper than that.

Otherwise, we're modulating our behavior based on the external world, based on how other people are going to react. We're caring what other people think, but it's really deeper than that.

Yeah. I mean, you're going to heal all your childhood wounds in your relationship. I'm finding that out. And it's tricky. It always comes up. I'm projecting my issues with my mother, all the issues from my childhood onto my partner all the time. And she was doing the same to me. And it creates this confusion. It creates this resentment. We get at each other.

Yeah. I mean, you're going to heal all your childhood wounds in your relationship. I'm finding that out. And it's tricky. It always comes up. I'm projecting my issues with my mother, all the issues from my childhood onto my partner all the time. And she was doing the same to me. And it creates this confusion. It creates this resentment. We get at each other.

Yeah. I mean, you're going to heal all your childhood wounds in your relationship. I'm finding that out. And it's tricky. It always comes up. I'm projecting my issues with my mother, all the issues from my childhood onto my partner all the time. And she was doing the same to me. And it creates this confusion. It creates this resentment. We get at each other.

And fortunately, you know, she's a pretty aware, evolved person. So we're able to get to the heart of what's actually going on for both of us and then come back into unity. But it's really about self-responsibility. It's like, how am I co-creating this? There's something that I'm doing. There's some distortion I have. Like, I believe this thing. Is it actually true?

And fortunately, you know, she's a pretty aware, evolved person. So we're able to get to the heart of what's actually going on for both of us and then come back into unity. But it's really about self-responsibility. It's like, how am I co-creating this? There's something that I'm doing. There's some distortion I have. Like, I believe this thing. Is it actually true?

And fortunately, you know, she's a pretty aware, evolved person. So we're able to get to the heart of what's actually going on for both of us and then come back into unity. But it's really about self-responsibility. It's like, how am I co-creating this? There's something that I'm doing. There's some distortion I have. Like, I believe this thing. Is it actually true?

Like, I didn't, I grew up, my mom left my father, left my stepfather. and didn't really attend to my needs during that process. I mean, she was overwhelmed. She was very young. And I felt like, hey, you know, does anybody want to check in with me, see how I feel about this? So my conception of women was I don't trust them, and they don't care what I feel.

Like, I didn't, I grew up, my mom left my father, left my stepfather. and didn't really attend to my needs during that process. I mean, she was overwhelmed. She was very young. And I felt like, hey, you know, does anybody want to check in with me, see how I feel about this? So my conception of women was I don't trust them, and they don't care what I feel.

Like, I didn't, I grew up, my mom left my father, left my stepfather. and didn't really attend to my needs during that process. I mean, she was overwhelmed. She was very young. And I felt like, hey, you know, does anybody want to check in with me, see how I feel about this? So my conception of women was I don't trust them, and they don't care what I feel.

And so I walk into a relationship, and I'm looking for evidence of that everywhere. And I'm building a case against her. And any little thing that she does – that confirms my belief, I point to it and then I stack it up until I blow up. And I'm like, you're doing this, you're doing this, you're doing this.

And so I walk into a relationship, and I'm looking for evidence of that everywhere. And I'm building a case against her. And any little thing that she does – that confirms my belief, I point to it and then I stack it up until I blow up. And I'm like, you're doing this, you're doing this, you're doing this.

And so I walk into a relationship, and I'm looking for evidence of that everywhere. And I'm building a case against her. And any little thing that she does – that confirms my belief, I point to it and then I stack it up until I blow up. And I'm like, you're doing this, you're doing this, you're doing this.

Maybe she is doing some of those things, but my reaction to it is completely out of proportion because of my history and because of that, I'm not actually seeing the good things that she's doing. I'm not seeing the ways in which she is, in fact, very trustable. We all come into relationship with those kind of distortions.

Maybe she is doing some of those things, but my reaction to it is completely out of proportion because of my history and because of that, I'm not actually seeing the good things that she's doing. I'm not seeing the ways in which she is, in fact, very trustable. We all come into relationship with those kind of distortions.

Maybe she is doing some of those things, but my reaction to it is completely out of proportion because of my history and because of that, I'm not actually seeing the good things that she's doing. I'm not seeing the ways in which she is, in fact, very trustable. We all come into relationship with those kind of distortions.

I think discernment is the key. I don't think you have to share everything in a relationship. That's my feeling. But you have to be careful that you're not hiding because if you're hiding something, it's going to be felt, right? And if you're hiding it out of shame, that's going to be felt. And ultimately, it's going to come up. And we can dilute ourselves. We can rationalize.