Dax Shepard

who was more of an experimental psychologist.

So brilliant.

She discovered these attachment styles, anxious, avoidant, and secure, in children in something that's called the strange situation test.

Tell us.

So the strange situation test, it's basically you bring a toddler and their caregiver into a room full of toys, and you watch them through a one-way mirror.

You can see it on YouTube.

really remarkable.

You bring them in, the child sees the toys, immediately, I want to play, I want to play, starts pointing at things, they rush over, start playing, and then they ask the caregiver to leave the room.

Immediately, they drop what they're doing.

They sort of run to the door.

They start banging on the door, crying.

And then they ask the mother, the caregiver, to come back to the room.

And it's in that reunion, that moment, where Mary Answorth identified the three attachment style, the anxious, avoidant, and secure.

And it's remarkable to see.

It's basically how effective is that bond in regulating the child's emotions.

Yeah.

And it's very important, actually, that co-regulation is so important and also translates to adulthood.

So now I'm sort of stressing it.

I'm like really making a point of it.

So basically, the secure bond, the mother picks them up and immediately, just like magic, they just calm down right away and then start pointing at the toys, wanting to engage again.