Dax Shepard

Anxious, not so much.

It just takes a long time to calm them down.

Sometimes they calm down and then start crying again.

It's called the calm on calm paradigm.

So the bond is not as effective in regulating their emotions.

And the avoidant, sometimes they don't even cry or even they do a little bit.

They stay limp in the mother's hands.

Is it fair to say they're pissed at the caregiver?

So you think, oh, sometimes they look like, I don't care, whatever.

But when you look at their blood pressure, their pulse, it's through the roof.

Wow.

So they're blocking their attachment needs.

But at the same time, they're alone in trying to regulate the emotions.

They don't know how to utilize the bond to regulate their emotions.

It all has to do with how good are people, children and then adults, in using others to regulate their feelings and emotions.

That's a very good question.

And we do know a little bit.

It's kind of like a wild field because...

Apparently, there's something that's called the adult attachment interview.

The same attachment styles in adulthood, but they have nothing to do with the other attachment styles, the more romantic ones or other relationships.