Dee Salmin

Like you might, if you, if you are wanting someone to be your complete equal, who treats you with respect, who doesn't have these warped ideas about women in the home that they've learned off socials, like you might have to get to a place where you genuinely feel comfortable, excited and happy by being alone.

Cause that there is a,

And you give yourself like something that I talk about is like if you build your life up to a place where you are so content and happy on your own, you give yourself the opportunity to leave a relationship when it isn't meeting your needs or it does become somewhat abusive or it does become something that you're no longer like feeling fulfilled in.

I know.

And I love my partner to absolute bits.

He is an angel.

He's the best.

We have normal relationship problems, but like I know, and he knows this, that I will be obviously heartbroken if we break up, but I will be so fine.

I will be so happy.

I will be, I know that my life was so happy with my life before him and I'll be so happy with my life after him.

But that doesn't take away from how much this relationship means to me.

It just creates an atmosphere where I know that like if for some point things aren't going well, that I'm going to be okay to leave.

Yeah.

Because I'm not scared about this idea of like not having a partner.

Yeah, I think for me...

journaling has been a massive massive part and that might not be for everyone so maybe I've seen some people say that they really love just voice noting I think if there's just like ways to actually get down some of your you know your thoughts and the things that you're thinking about and learning about yourself that is has been for me a really huge part of being able to like

ooh, why am I feeling this type of way about this thing?

Yeah.

And then I also think travelling has been a massive thing for me.

Like I have a non-negotiable where I for years now have always done a solo trip.