Devorah Heitner
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first heard Oct 2018
last heard 17 Oct
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Absolutely.
So our lived experience helps us know, wow, if I go down this road in this group text, it's gonna lead to conflict and some difficult conversations.
Or if I see a picture where I'm left out, I probably don't wanna call the person and yell at them because that's that's not a good way for me to continue the friendship.
So
It's important for us to bring in that knowledge of previous experiences and our our knowledge of, Oh, where is this gonna go?
Whereas our kids may react much more impulsively to experiences, whether it's seeing a picture where they're left out or
getting a text and feeling like they have to respond even it's in the if it's in the middle of the night.
So we can really counsel them to be patient, to think through their response, and also to let them think through how to repair if something goes wrong, if something goes awry in a conversation with someone else.
Absolutely.
Some of it is just sharing our own experience.
I mean
if I run into something in my own Twitter, Facebook, you know, world
that is uncomfortable or difficult, I might have a solution or maybe I didn't handle it well so I can share that with my kid or hopefully I did handle it really well and I could share that story.
But just the ways we curate our experience day to day.
the way we might see something that we don't like or makes us uncomfortable, we could share that with our kids so that they know, oh, that's a behavior that might make someone uncomfortable.
It's really great for our kids to see us in the world and to know that we make mistakes too and oh I I responded too hastily to that email and now I have a lot of cleanup to do in that relationship or that work situation.
And I I wish I'd taken the time to think it through or even talk in person instead.
So I think letting them know that we've been there and also letting them know that it is genuinely challenging, that we recognize, I mean, that's one of the great things about coaching is we're not saying, Oh, this is so easy, why don't you get it?
We're saying, Yeah, this is really challenging and you know, baby steps.
As the most connected person in my family, I can say that it's really important for me to listen
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