Devorah Roloff

And it's important.

And even with the failure aspect of, you know, the adoption, it's like,

That could easily be something where you just want to give up because it is so draining.

Right.

But the outcome was so beautiful, you know, and I know it's like people don't always want to hear it, but things do happen for a reason.

Things don't work out and do work out to get you to where you're supposed to be.

And I think that, you know, once again, kind of going back to what I said in the beginning as well, you know, you've built this beautiful life for yourself.

You know, you have your family.

you could keep all this in the past.

And while it is there, you know, I think there's something incredible about taking what happened

and using it now to help others you know and let people know they aren't alone because you know it's it's so easy to just you know life is busy it's very easy to just keep the ball rolling push things in the back push things in the back but it is better to talk about things you know even if it is just a few therapy sessions like it's not nobody's saying like you have to be dedicated and committed to speaking to somebody every day for the rest of your life but I think

acknowledging that it's not fair for you to hold the guilt.

Life's too short.

It's not fair to beat ourselves up, have guilt, have blame, anything.

Because that takes away from other aspects of our lives, from ourself, from our partner, from children, anything.

So I think that it's amazing that you made that decision as well.

Because that's scary too.

Even to open up old wounds and be like, all right, where do I start?

Let me just pour it all out.

And I think there is something –