Dhru Purohit

How do I play a role in keeping it alive?

Because there's always something that we get, even for the most destructive patterns that are there in our life.

We get something from it, right?

We get something from it.

And that something is enough, even though it feels like we're shooting ourselves in the foot, that something is enough, whether it's subconscious or conscious, that something is enough for us to say that even though this thing is painful, it's familiar, it's easy, it allows us to sort of avoid something, whatever it might be.

It feels safe.

It feels safe.

Yeah.

And the power of that is that when we understand that we played a role, we step into the law of responsibility.

Law of responsibility says that it's not 100% my fault that something happened, but if I played even a tiny little bit of a role in making this thing happen...

That's actually a good thing because I can do something to unwind it.

If it 100% was not my fault, not my responsibility, then you can't do **** about it anyway.

And therefore, if that's actually true, you shouldn't really be worrying about it in the first place, right?

But usually it's...

If we're suffering, it's because we played a little bit of a role.

We had a little bit of attachment.

We have a little bit of a pattern and we're getting something by keeping it alive.

And I think that's a great opportunity to talk about these overwhelmed styles.

Okay.

So I'm going to tee them up for you.