Dhru Purohit

It might be that that's just part of her sexual repertoire and that by simply understanding...

that her husband can kind of feel more at ease with it.

And maybe it's that there's not full on, you know, tying up, but maybe there's just a blindfold.

Maybe there's just, you know, tying hands together or pinning hands together above your head.

There can be elements that are brought in, but oftentimes it's just feeling like our partner understands what we want and cares about what we want and can introduce ingredients.

that allow couples to meet each other.

And then you have to consider, of course, in extreme examples, what if it's something that you are just really not up for, right?

What if there is one couple I talked to, the husband wanted to have his wife wear a strap on and she just could not get...

her head around that, right?

And it's like, that's the kind of situation where the person who has that strong sexual desire, you know, is that very specific sex act something that feels like, oh, that'd be fun to try?

Or is it something that you really can't be happy without, right?

If it's something that you truly can't be happy without, that's a question about larger issues of sexual compatibility in your relationship.

A lot of times it's more about feeling seen in that desire and finding creative ways to introduce elements of it without having it to be this binary like we do it or we don't.

I just want to still touch upon this desire discrepancy idea though, because a lot of the discrepancy that I think that couples face is just frequency, how often they want to have sex.

And again, in this situation, sometimes it's the creative solution, right?

It's almost the typical negotiation.

My partner wants to have sex five times a week or every day.

I'm really okay with it once every two weeks.

Maybe the compromise is,

is you put it on the calendar for once a week, right?