Dhru Purohit

Or twice a week, plan intimacy, talk to each other, find the ways that allow you to feel sexy and want to have it.

But oftentimes it's really about what's the underlying need.

Does the person who wants more sex, is it about sexual release?

In that case, again, back to masturbation, very healthy solution, right?

Or is it that the person who wants much more sex just wants more time to connect with their partner, right?

Are there other ways that the people can connect and carve out time for each other and hear each other and see each other and feel appreciated by each other that don't involve sex?

So it's really just about kind of creative problem solving where you come together and you talk about the issue because that's the number one thing that couples don't do is they don't talk about it.

And they just assume that these discrepancies are unsolvable and have a very sort of, you know, what we call a sexual destiny belief, which is that just is what it is.

We're not compatible.

No.

Have a growth mindset.

Believe change is possible.

Find creative solutions where both of you can be satisfied.

What are your thoughts on that?

I 100% agree with that.

And this is why couples should have conversations about sex and what their, for lack of a better word, expectations are early on in a relationship, like when they're getting married.

What do you both want out of life?

What are your career goals?

Who's going to spend more time with the kids?

What's the division of household labor going to kind of look like?