Donna Ashworth

Oh, no, I'm the full human package.

Right.

I've got it all going on.

All of the sides.

I can be petty, I can be angry, I can be jealous, I can be resentful, but I don't choose it.

So I've learned to watch my thoughts and patterns and behaviours and I flip them really quickly.

I see it coming in and I think, right, what's going on with you?

Why do you feel like that?

And then I flip it around and I don't choose to keep it.

Because we all have these thoughts, they come into your head, you can't help them.

They were put there the first time the world broke your heart, the first time somebody told you you weren't good enough, the first time somebody, you know, ridiculed you and humiliated you, you took that on board, made a voice in your own head that has stayed with you forevermore going, you're rubbish.

You're useless.

You can't do that.

And our generation, especially and before us.

So I think there's changes in the new generation coming up.

Their self-talk is better.

But we, women our age, are unpicking decades of negative self-talk.

And you can't judge yourself for the thoughts that pop in.

But you can judge yourself for the ones you choose to keep and run with.

Because you have the control to stop that right in the bud and flip it and look for the love.