Dr. Alex Curmi

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The Thinking Mind: Mental Health & Personal Growth · E184 | Thinking Films: Obsession (2026) · 23 Jul 2026 podcast

all of the feedback from his friends telling him, you know, I think you're going in the wrong direction with this.

Another sign that perhaps you're not going down on the right path if everyone in your life is telling you you're not.

And things get worse from there.

So there is no nice guy.

Being nice in certain contexts is great.

Being nice is great for a position of strength.

And actually, being in a position of strength will put you in a much better position to be nice.

But what someone should avoid doing is being nice as a strategy to be liked.

So that's the key distinction.

You should be nice for its own sake because it's nice.

It's nice to be nice, it's nice to be generous, it's nice to help people.

Uh but the nice guy issue is when you're nice as a strategy because you don't really feel good about yourself and you think you'll feel good about yourself if people will like you and if you and you think

If you're nice, then people will like you.

So that's the key distinction that you need to make.

And of course, as I said before, it's not just a problem that affects guys.

There are many women who are also hyper-agreeable.

And I think it's something that many, many people in a modern society need to think about because modern society does tend to promote this kind of excessively, in my view.

And I think not everyone, but many of us.

could benefit from developing a bit more of an edge and a bit more of a willingness to take risks, you know, say what we want and step outside of our comfort zone a little bit.

And the last theme we're talking about when it comes to this film is the theme of validation and identity and how relationships affect that.

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