Dr. Alison Wood Brooks
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Right.
Right.
So there's a couple of things.
One is we talk a lot about the power of apologies.
And this would be an example when you could say, it seems like we've really fallen into some bad habits where we're really getting defensive or lashing out and arguing all the time.
What would it take for us to sort of shift that?
How can we get into a different pattern?
How can we change our habits with each other?
It's going to require that both people buy into it because conversation is co-constructed.
It means that they have to buy in, you have to buy in, and you both have to try.
And if you can't shift out of that equilibrium, that's often when, you know, relationships part ways.
It's not rewarding.
For all of the people who hate small talk, you're right.
It sucks.
It's shallow.
It's meaningless.
It feels like there's this alarm bell going off on your mind of like, why can't we get past this?
Why can't we get to the real stuff?
We all want the real stuff.
How can I get there?