Dr. Allan Schore

That's already a toddler.

That's already a toddler.

That's already a toddler.

Yeah, what I'm saying is it's a secure attachment. And let me back up a step on that. The key to attachment is psychobiological attunement. You know the phrase. Notice psychobiological attunement. That the mother is regulating not only the psychological aspect, but literally is regulating the physiological aspect of that, which means that she's regulating the autonomic nervous system.

Yeah, what I'm saying is it's a secure attachment. And let me back up a step on that. The key to attachment is psychobiological attunement. You know the phrase. Notice psychobiological attunement. That the mother is regulating not only the psychological aspect, but literally is regulating the physiological aspect of that, which means that she's regulating the autonomic nervous system.

Yeah, what I'm saying is it's a secure attachment. And let me back up a step on that. The key to attachment is psychobiological attunement. You know the phrase. Notice psychobiological attunement. That the mother is regulating not only the psychological aspect, but literally is regulating the physiological aspect of that, which means that she's regulating the autonomic nervous system.

Think about Porges social engagement system. What we have here is the capacity by insecure attachment who have, and then the second part of the attachment is repair. Now, let me go back. Psychobiological attunement. Sometimes she misattunes. Sometimes she misreads the baby's states for one reason or another.

Think about Porges social engagement system. What we have here is the capacity by insecure attachment who have, and then the second part of the attachment is repair. Now, let me go back. Psychobiological attunement. Sometimes she misattunes. Sometimes she misreads the baby's states for one reason or another.

Think about Porges social engagement system. What we have here is the capacity by insecure attachment who have, and then the second part of the attachment is repair. Now, let me go back. Psychobiological attunement. Sometimes she misattunes. Sometimes she misreads the baby's states for one reason or another.

What happens in a good enough caregiving is that the mother who was misattuned now reattunes to that baby. now re-synchronizes with that baby, now reconnects right brains to right brains with that baby. And that repair is a key here. So you have misattunement and repair. So the key to a secure attachment is not only psychobiological attunement, but it's also the repair of the misattunement.

What happens in a good enough caregiving is that the mother who was misattuned now reattunes to that baby. now re-synchronizes with that baby, now reconnects right brains to right brains with that baby. And that repair is a key here. So you have misattunement and repair. So the key to a secure attachment is not only psychobiological attunement, but it's also the repair of the misattunement.

What happens in a good enough caregiving is that the mother who was misattuned now reattunes to that baby. now re-synchronizes with that baby, now reconnects right brains to right brains with that baby. And that repair is a key here. So you have misattunement and repair. So the key to a secure attachment is not only psychobiological attunement, but it's also the repair of the misattunement.

And that allows the baby now to expand that situation and being able to use that now to order a case. That's a secure. But if she misattunes, for example, and doesn't repair, let's say, or she's not that good at psychobiologically attuning, let's say, as an avoidant mother, because avoidant personalities are uncomfortable with real closeness.

And that allows the baby now to expand that situation and being able to use that now to order a case. That's a secure. But if she misattunes, for example, and doesn't repair, let's say, or she's not that good at psychobiologically attuning, let's say, as an avoidant mother, because avoidant personalities are uncomfortable with real closeness.

And that allows the baby now to expand that situation and being able to use that now to order a case. That's a secure. But if she misattunes, for example, and doesn't repair, let's say, or she's not that good at psychobiologically attuning, let's say, as an avoidant mother, because avoidant personalities are uncomfortable with real closeness.

Another term for an avoidant personality is a dismissive personality. And what they are dismissing is the need for interactive regulation. So they're always auto-regulating it.

Another term for an avoidant personality is a dismissive personality. And what they are dismissing is the need for interactive regulation. So they're always auto-regulating it.

Another term for an avoidant personality is a dismissive personality. And what they are dismissing is the need for interactive regulation. So they're always auto-regulating it.

Or you have another time in which you have another form of attachment, an insecure anxious attachment, where that person is always interactively regulating or is always going to others to help them regulate, but can't auto-regulate.

Or you have another time in which you have another form of attachment, an insecure anxious attachment, where that person is always interactively regulating or is always going to others to help them regulate, but can't auto-regulate.