Dr. Alok 'Dr. K' Kanojia

Either I satisfy myself or I satisfy other people.

Or there's some weird dimension of God and spirituality.

That's basically what they found, right?

So I want you all to think about this balance.

So I've worked with a ton of people who are depressed because they spend their whole life making the rest of the world happy.

They achieve things.

They accomplish things.

They're the perfect husband, the perfect wife, the perfect boyfriend, the perfect girlfriend, the perfect son, the perfect daughter, the perfect employee, the perfect boss.

All of their identity is perfect.

invested in making the rest of the world happy.

This is going to lead to existential depression because you're sort of sitting there, you're living your whole life for the sake of other people.

You wake up one day and you're 40.

This is where a midlife crisis comes from.

What the hell am I doing on this planet?

I've done everything that I'm supposed to do.

I've made everyone happy.

I got promoted.

I accomplished a lot, but I wake up and I'm unhappy.

The second version is the person who is prioritizing self-fulfillment.

They're very selfish and