Dr. Alok 'Dr. K' Kanojia

So right, so from the spiritual tradition, like the Eastern karmic traditions, we talk about like the value of acceptance.

And we kind of say like, look, life is going to happen.

It's going to be your karma.

There's no way to dodge your bad karma.

So just accept it.

Same kind of thing.

The key thing here is that what we're trying to do is disable the anxiety, right?

So if I am thinking about asking someone out on a date or socializing, if I go into it and saying, look, I'm going to go into this social situation.

I'm going to feel anxious.

It's going to be terrible.

So be it.

Bring it on, right?

Just because life sucks doesn't mean I'm going to retreat from it.

Let it happen.

Like, do your worst, bitch.

Let's go.

And this is the key thing that Frankl discovered, right?

is that the attitude that we embody when we approach the difficulties of life will ultimately determine how we live our life.

So if you adopt this attitude of, okay, this person, I'm going to ask this person out on a date.

They're going to reject me.