Dr. Alok (Dr. K)

This is forever.

This means, like, look at the dimension of time.

You'll notice that

The more unhealthy your mindset is, the greater the dimension of time is going to be as part of your thought process.

Things will linger for a very long time and your mind will think about time a lot.

So one of the best ways to shift is to focus on the short term, really focus on the short term.

Okay, I got dumped for someone.

My mind is saying I'm going to be alone for the rest of my life.

What am I going to do for the next hour?

Am I going to clean my kitchen?

Am I going to sit on my phone for an hour?

Am I going to scroll through TikToks, their Instagram reels that now realize that I've been dumped and are going to feed me this kind of stuff?

What am I going to do in the short term?

And I think the biggest thing that people grossly, grossly, grossly underestimate is how important experience is for changing your mindset.

So this is, I think, a big weakness in therapy that we try to work on the mindset solely through the mindset for the most part.

We try to help people cognitively reframe and stuff like that.

Whereas if you look at what is the biggest thing that will change someone's thought process is experience.

And this is why people get locked into mindsets.

Because you can try to listen to me talk about a mindset shift.

But if your experience continues to be really, really bad and terrible, and I'm a black pillar, no one cares about me, no one's talking to me and things like that.