Dr. Alok (Dr. K)

I can talk as much as I want to about mindset, but your brain is producing those thoughts based on your experience.

So the best way to change it, the most automatic way, the most non-intentional way to change your mindset is to cultivate a different kind of experience.

So if you have a very negative aspect in your life or mindset in your life, then think about what your day-to-day experience is.

How can you change that?

And there's a paper that I wanna show y'all that just flashes to the, oh, I guess I can't show y'all a paper, nevermind.

Okay, so if you guys see this,

So if you look at people who have endogenous depression, their experience is relatively constant.

So this is reactive depression where you have some highs, you've got some lows, highs, lows, whatever.

But if you look at a normal healthy functioning, there's a lot of variety.

So I think oftentimes what I see very practically is that when people have the same fundamental daily experience and there's not variety, their mindset gets locked in.

And I think this is what's so confusing is that oftentimes the way to fix our mindset problems is to not fix our mindset problems.

It is simply to start to accumulate a different kind of experience.

So whatever, like if you're stuck in a particular mindset, step out of your daily life in its current form.

And it's really fascinating because if you look at research on quarter life crisis,

One of the key things to overcome a quarter-life crisis is literally a phase that they call checking out.

Checking out is not a problem.

It's part of the process of plugging back in.

You gotta check out to plug back in.

You have to step out of your existing life in order to figure out who you are so that you can plug back into your life in a much healthier way.

I think we've been running for a little while, so it's about two o'clock, so we're gonna wrap up.