Dr. Alok Kanojia
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15,637 appearances
27 recordings
1 series
first heard Jun 2026
last heard 2d ago
Dr. Alok Kanojia’s voice in public audio — every appearance, attributed to the second.
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So if you were never loved as a child, you have to accept that you were not loved as a child.
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That's really healthy, but that's not where it ends.
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The real way to fix that is to be loved as an adult, to be loved.
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Loved in the way that a child was loved as an adult, to be spoiled, to be indulgent.
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And I think there are a couple of really good examples of this through Eric Erickson, which I think make a lot of sense.
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Here is the progress bar of childhood.
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When we're somewhere around three to six years old, we have this basic task of initiative versus guilt.
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So what does this mean?
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So when a child is like two, they don't have choices, they can't demonstrate.
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Initiative that they don't like get to decide what we're doing today.
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They don't get to control or steer their life at all.
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But once we get to be about three, four, five, and six, that's when we can demonstrate initiative.
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Hey, today I want to go to the zoo.
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Or if we go to the zoo, I want to see the anacondas, not the tigers.
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And a five-year-old can demonstrate, like they can try to steer the car of their life in small ways.
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And the
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Way that people respond to that is really important.
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Okay.
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So when I want to do something, I want to see tigers, or let's say I want to see snakes, which means that I have an initiative.
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And let's say that my parents have a phobia of snakes.
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