Dr. Alok Kanojia (Dr. K)

So you may notice, OK, there is an emptiness within me or there's something that is unhappy within me.

And every time I go to the gym, every time I learn a language, I feel better.

So then you keep doing it, right?

Because you have an emotion of something missing, you improve yourself, and then it feels better.

So this cycle repeats over and over and over again.

And then the question that you need to ask yourself, the second level question you need to ask yourself is, why does... So what you'll notice is that the feeling of relief from improvement is temporary.

And then tomorrow...

I need to go to the gym again.

And I need to go to the gym.

Now I need to learn a language.

Now I need to read 50 books.

Now I need to do all this stuff.

Okay?

So if the feeling is temporary, hold on a second.

How do I ever make this feeling go away forever?

Or am I going to be on this endless treadmill of improvement?

So this is also a scenario where people sort of discover that improving makes them feel better on the inside, but only for a time, which is why they become addicted to the improvement itself.

I'm all for improving.

I'm not saying you shouldn't improve, but you shouldn't mindlessly improve.

You should improve with intention.