Dr. Alok Kanojia

Which is actually holding your partner, which is cracking a joke, you know?

And not all sex has to be passionate, right?

Yeah, and then there's the, why don't we do that more often?

So I think there's a lot of like, you know, shared emotional connection.

There's a lot of intimacy that you can build.

There's a lot of shoulder to shoulder and knee to knee kind of going on.

And so I think a lot of the problems that we see is that, and this is one of the reasons that I think we have like this dating and mating crisis right now, which is that everyone is trying to live up to expectations.

And I think apps are just making this worse.

Oh, yeah.

Catastrophically so, yeah.

Apps are basically saying, give us all your expectations.

We will find you someone who checks all the boxes.

But that's not what a real relationship is.

So I think that's what's so scary is what you're talking about is that apps will select for things that have nothing to do.

There's tons of research on this.

Have nothing to do with relationship quality.

Yeah, so I'm the same way.

So, you know, my wife and I had a conversation recently where like she wants me to like do more things that she likes.

We're like completely different human beings.

We don't like the same music.