Dr. Alok Kanojia

They have a lot of negative emotion.

And it's really easy in that moment to forget that, okay, I had three years of wonderful experiences with this person before things went downhill.

it's really easy to forget all of the positives.

It's really easy to realize that three years of experience followed by, let's say, one year of a toxic relationship is going to actually protect you from the next toxic relationship.

So cultivating additional emotions is a huge fundamental part of EQ.

And you don't just have to tolerate it or suppress it.

These are the additional things that you can do.

And this is really important.

It's not just cultivating positive emotions when you're feeling negative emotions.

It's the other way around as well.

I've seen more relationships ruined by falling in love than anything else.

And you just fall in love with the wrong person.

You're in a relationship and you fall in love with somebody else.

So many people I've worked with, you know, I have this great business idea and I get so excited about it.

And like, I'm going to start this AI company.

That's the time that you actually want to cultivate negative emotion.

Cultivate a little bit of anxiety.

What could go wrong?

Make sure you ask yourself that question.

Like literally in addiction psychiatry, we have a cool technique that we use with people where it doesn't really work so much anymore, but we tell people to play the tape through to the end.