Dr. Alok Kanojia

You're really excited right now and you want to do this thing, but play the tape through the end.

What are all of the negative things that could happen?

So that cognitive flexibility, that emotional flexibility is really important.

we have to understand what emotions are.

So a lot of times, you know, this is going around on the internet where like, feel your feelings, right?

Like I'm just gonna authentically, I'm gonna be authentic with my feelings today, which means that you're an asshole, Andrew.

And I'm just, this is my truth, right?

So we've started like speaking our truths as excuses to being assholes.

Like that's what's happening on the internet.

It's what's happening in real relationships because people are watching social media and they're like, I should speak my truth, right?

So the other thing that's really important is to understand that an emotion is not a behavior.

An emotion is literally from an evolutionary perspective, and you may know this better than I do, is information and is motivation.

That's what emotions are for.

So when you feel fear, when you're walking outside,

walk into the outhouse in the middle of the night and you feel fear, all this sensory input is being processed in parts of your brain that you have no conscious awareness of.

The first thing that happens is that you feel emotion before you have any logical idea of what are you even scared of.

That is your brain telling you something.

The other thing is it's motivation, right?

I feel like running away.

And this is where, unfortunately, our brain evolved for a world that we don't live in anymore.