Dr. Alok Kanojia

Like you're like, your ex is now dating someone else.

And then you look at their pictures and you like look at all their pictures and you make yourself like kind of feel worse.

Don't use it when you're vulnerable.

That's huge.

It's going to destroy them.

Here's what's really scary.

So like, I'm not a couples therapist, but I just made a guide to relationships because

Everyone in my community is struggling with loneliness.

And here's the really scary thing.

If you look at the research, looks are not that important for a relationship.

So there's some really fascinating studies on charisma.

So looks are number six on if you do a multivariate regression analysis.

Actually, I don't think it was multivariate.

But if you look at the factors of charisma, looks is number six.

And if you look at like the most charismatic people on the planet, like no offense, but like, you know, Winston Churchill, amazingly charismatic, not the most looks maxing guy out there, you know?

And so I think the really scary thing is that a lot of this like information on social media is just wrong.

It's not based in science at all.

Like what we talked about with flirting, people don't realize if you're flirting with someone and they don't get it, that's actually fine.

That's why you have to make three attempts to flirt with someone statistically.

And then you should level up, like escalate the signal that you're transmitting.