Dr. Alok Kanojia

Yeah. It is almost like, oh, my God, this person's going to not only are they weird, they're going to murder me. And it's like, no, they're that's not likely to happen. You're more likely to get hit by a car walking in the mailbox.

Yeah. It is almost like, oh, my God, this person's going to not only are they weird, they're going to murder me. And it's like, no, they're that's not likely to happen. You're more likely to get hit by a car walking in the mailbox.

I agree with you. I've seen this with my own eyes. And what was kind of a surprise for me was finding out that some of the most vitriolic incels, they don't actually hate women. They actually just hate themselves or parts of themselves.

I agree with you. I've seen this with my own eyes. And what was kind of a surprise for me was finding out that some of the most vitriolic incels, they don't actually hate women. They actually just hate themselves or parts of themselves.

I agree with you. I've seen this with my own eyes. And what was kind of a surprise for me was finding out that some of the most vitriolic incels, they don't actually hate women. They actually just hate themselves or parts of themselves.

Because one of the questions is, how come guys who have bad breakups don't all turn into incels? And the reasons are legion. However, one of the main ones, in my opinion, is... Let's say I have a really bad breakup and I'm 20. Well, what if I had three other relationships with really great girls before that that were super nice, were still friends, it wasn't a big deal. One, I just moved away.

Because one of the questions is, how come guys who have bad breakups don't all turn into incels? And the reasons are legion. However, one of the main ones, in my opinion, is... Let's say I have a really bad breakup and I'm 20. Well, what if I had three other relationships with really great girls before that that were super nice, were still friends, it wasn't a big deal. One, I just moved away.

Because one of the questions is, how come guys who have bad breakups don't all turn into incels? And the reasons are legion. However, one of the main ones, in my opinion, is... Let's say I have a really bad breakup and I'm 20. Well, what if I had three other relationships with really great girls before that that were super nice, were still friends, it wasn't a big deal. One, I just moved away.

The other one was college and we ended up getting jobs, you know, and then date some crazy, horrible person in my early 20s. It's like, wow, well, that I might have a little trauma associated with it, but I'm not immediately going to throw everybody into one bucket. But if you've only had trauma or only had being bullied or negative experiences with women and then rejection, you're right.

The other one was college and we ended up getting jobs, you know, and then date some crazy, horrible person in my early 20s. It's like, wow, well, that I might have a little trauma associated with it, but I'm not immediately going to throw everybody into one bucket. But if you've only had trauma or only had being bullied or negative experiences with women and then rejection, you're right.

The other one was college and we ended up getting jobs, you know, and then date some crazy, horrible person in my early 20s. It's like, wow, well, that I might have a little trauma associated with it, but I'm not immediately going to throw everybody into one bucket. But if you've only had trauma or only had being bullied or negative experiences with women and then rejection, you're right.

You just don't have anything on the other end of the scale.

You just don't have anything on the other end of the scale.

You just don't have anything on the other end of the scale.

I've got a good friend who's a dating coach, a really good one for men. And I thought, oh, that's still going on? And he's like, are you kidding me? Because I got out of that business, you know, when I met my wife and I really sort of exited. There's way more demand for that stuff now. Not the pickup stuff, but actual like dating help from mature people who are functional. Yeah.

I've got a good friend who's a dating coach, a really good one for men. And I thought, oh, that's still going on? And he's like, are you kidding me? Because I got out of that business, you know, when I met my wife and I really sort of exited. There's way more demand for that stuff now. Not the pickup stuff, but actual like dating help from mature people who are functional. Yeah.

I've got a good friend who's a dating coach, a really good one for men. And I thought, oh, that's still going on? And he's like, are you kidding me? Because I got out of that business, you know, when I met my wife and I really sort of exited. There's way more demand for that stuff now. Not the pickup stuff, but actual like dating help from mature people who are functional. Yeah.

Not like dudes in bars picking up chicks. Yeah. It is quite shocking. Those skills used to kind of naturally for many of us just follow, right? You go to high school, maybe you're not great, but then you go to college and you got a buddy who's like, dude, just talk to her. Like, what do I say? And they just tell you to do something stupid and it kind of works.

Not like dudes in bars picking up chicks. Yeah. It is quite shocking. Those skills used to kind of naturally for many of us just follow, right? You go to high school, maybe you're not great, but then you go to college and you got a buddy who's like, dude, just talk to her. Like, what do I say? And they just tell you to do something stupid and it kind of works.

Not like dudes in bars picking up chicks. Yeah. It is quite shocking. Those skills used to kind of naturally for many of us just follow, right? You go to high school, maybe you're not great, but then you go to college and you got a buddy who's like, dude, just talk to her. Like, what do I say? And they just tell you to do something stupid and it kind of works.