Dr Amantha Imber
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first heard Jul 2022
last heard Jul 2022
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I'll share one other one that I do use quite a lot.
And I think it's relevant now that, you know, this year we've kind of been coming out of our caves of lockdown, particularly in Melbourne being the lockdown capital of the world.
And we're going to events and it's
it almost feels like we're relearning how to socialize and how to talk to people that we don't know.
And I personally get quite nervous at events where I don't know anyone.
And I got this strategy from Marisa King, who's a professor of social dynamics and social behavior at Yale.
And this stuck with me and it is my go-to strategy whenever I'm going to an event where I don't really know anyone that well.
So what she says is, firstly, it can be really easy when you walk into a room to see it as an ocean full of people.
And she said, that's your first mistake.
They're islands, people clustering groups and generally quite small groups.
And then she said, what you want to do, and this is the great part of the tip, is you want to look for the odd numbered groups.
So people naturally communicate in dyads, so one-on-one, like we've got two ears, two eyes, we're designed to just communicate one-on-one.
And so if they're, say, a group of three or a group of five,
there will always be at least one person on the outer.
Definitely in a group of three I find is easiest.
There will be someone who is on the outer.
And so if you can identify those odd-numbered groups, go up to them, see if you can identify who's on the outer, and then it will be very natural to break off with that person and start a new conversation and feel comfortable in that conversation.
So I always look for odd-numbered groups whenever I go to events now.
Yeah, so you can get TimeWise really wherever you buy books from.
And then How I Work, the podcast that the book is based on, is available probably on the app that you're listening to this podcast on right now.
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