Dr. Amir Levine

It's called Spring Awakening.

And it's that show where they all go through terrible heartaches and really tragic things that happen with many of them.

And I witnessed it as a child psychiatrist when that whole romantic relationship comes online.

But not only, also with friendships.

In adolescence, there's so much pain.

And then I discovered also in middle school with friends, but in adolescence around romantic relationships, there's so much pain that comes on and people don't have a roadmap to learn about security.

No one teaches that.

So I started it off as like thinking about something to prepare for college and high school so kids will learn, so they'll have a better framework to how to sort of work on all those relationships.

I have this woman who, when she was 87, when she started a relationship, and she's still like, oh my God, he hasn't called me.

When is he going to text me?

What's going to happen?

It's like back like you're 16 again.

So we can all benefit from it.

And that's why I decided to write Secure.

So everybody, no matter what age you are, you can still create a more secure life for yourself.

First of all, the first thing that I think people need to think about, if you understand that who you are as a child doesn't really, there's a lot more that contributes to your attachment style in adulthood than what happened to you as a child.

So I think that takes a lot of the blame off the parents.

And again, I told you, don't blame the parents for avoidance.

So as a parent yourself, not to think, oh my God, I did this.

I'm going to forever like damage my child.