Dr. Becky Kennedy

Such a good place to start.

So first of all, so excited to be here.

We're going to get into all the things.

I mean, I don't know if I can answer that in like one sentence, but in general, our kids in their early years, through their relationship with us, they are learning so

all the important things about how to operate and be in the world.

So what does that mean?

They are learning what emotions are safe and manageable and what emotions are dangerous or, quote, too much.

They are learning, what should I expect from other people?

When you get upset with people, can you get through that?

Are you allowed to be mad at people you love?

you're also learning in your earliest relationships about confidence, about what it means to depend on people and be independent of those people, right?

A lot of dualities.

And so I think we focus a lot maybe

on, I don't know, how much time do I have with my kids exactly?

You're right.

Was I at this one soccer game?

And then, and I know I do this to myself too.

We tell ourselves these huge stories based on one moment or one day or one week that feels out of balance.

But if you zoom out, what kids really need is they need to feel seen.

They need to feel safe, which does not mean comfortable.