Dr. Becky Kennedy

The next thing I even just had her play around things saying to me, can you say to me, I deserve a raise. It was very interesting. I think this is one of the reasons she had trouble speaking up for it. It was really hard for her to embody that. We said that. She couldn't. I remember a week she said, I'm going to write it down and bring it. She didn't. Again, I like parenting. I didn't punish her.

I didn't send her to her room. I said, okay, that was just too big. Let's make it smaller. Let's write it together. Wrote some things down there, right? I then had her write it as an email and send it to me. And I then had her practice it with her best friend. And then she asked her boss for a raise. Like, I mean, I don't even, this, like, probably no one's surprised.

I didn't send her to her room. I said, okay, that was just too big. Let's make it smaller. Let's write it together. Wrote some things down there, right? I then had her write it as an email and send it to me. And I then had her practice it with her best friend. And then she asked her boss for a raise. Like, I mean, I don't even, this, like, probably no one's surprised.

I didn't send her to her room. I said, okay, that was just too big. Let's make it smaller. Let's write it together. Wrote some things down there, right? I then had her write it as an email and send it to me. And I then had her practice it with her best friend. And then she asked her boss for a raise. Like, I mean, I don't even, this, like, probably no one's surprised.

Yeah, like, that makes sense. She'd gotten through a lot of steps. But it's just applicable in every area of your life. So even anyone listening, we all have something in our I can't category. This is too hard or I can't. And we just stay there. And if you hear Miss Edson, Saying, wait, if something feels too hard to do, it only means that the first step isn't small enough.

Yeah, like, that makes sense. She'd gotten through a lot of steps. But it's just applicable in every area of your life. So even anyone listening, we all have something in our I can't category. This is too hard or I can't. And we just stay there. And if you hear Miss Edson, Saying, wait, if something feels too hard to do, it only means that the first step isn't small enough.

Yeah, like, that makes sense. She'd gotten through a lot of steps. But it's just applicable in every area of your life. So even anyone listening, we all have something in our I can't category. This is too hard or I can't. And we just stay there. And if you hear Miss Edson, Saying, wait, if something feels too hard to do, it only means that the first step isn't small enough.

And if then the next smallest step feels too hard, no biggie. Like, no judgment. Make it smaller, make it smaller, make it smaller. And then allow yourself to eventually build up from there.

And if then the next smallest step feels too hard, no biggie. Like, no judgment. Make it smaller, make it smaller, make it smaller. And then allow yourself to eventually build up from there.

And if then the next smallest step feels too hard, no biggie. Like, no judgment. Make it smaller, make it smaller, make it smaller. And then allow yourself to eventually build up from there.

Love Miss Edson.

Love Miss Edson.

Love Miss Edson.

Yeah. And the similarity is so interesting. What I think that the powerful thing about Ms. Edson's advice is she's almost saying make something small enough so you can get your first win. Yeah. Having a win is really powerful. It's kind of addicting. You're like, what's my next win, right? You're on the win circuit.

Yeah. And the similarity is so interesting. What I think that the powerful thing about Ms. Edson's advice is she's almost saying make something small enough so you can get your first win. Yeah. Having a win is really powerful. It's kind of addicting. You're like, what's my next win, right? You're on the win circuit.

Yeah. And the similarity is so interesting. What I think that the powerful thing about Ms. Edson's advice is she's almost saying make something small enough so you can get your first win. Yeah. Having a win is really powerful. It's kind of addicting. You're like, what's my next win, right? You're on the win circuit.

You know, one of the reasons we want to create so many more resources for parents and when parents come to us and even say, this is a problem, this is a problem, this is a problem. I often just start, I would say, okay, like what is the smallest thing would change that would make you when you go to bed at night be like, today was a better day. there's some bigger stuff. I hear you.

You know, one of the reasons we want to create so many more resources for parents and when parents come to us and even say, this is a problem, this is a problem, this is a problem. I often just start, I would say, okay, like what is the smallest thing would change that would make you when you go to bed at night be like, today was a better day. there's some bigger stuff. I hear you.

You know, one of the reasons we want to create so many more resources for parents and when parents come to us and even say, this is a problem, this is a problem, this is a problem. I often just start, I would say, okay, like what is the smallest thing would change that would make you when you go to bed at night be like, today was a better day. there's some bigger stuff. I hear you.

How am I not going to tackle that? We'll tackle that in time. But like, I want to get you a win today. And then all of a sudden when a parent starts to build, it's kind of their own self-efficacy, their own like, oh, wait, I did feel good about that one moment. I did feel more connected to my kid. I said this one thing.