Dr. Becky Kennedy

Then they tend to perseverate on it. Your daughter going through it in play, I actually think is adaptive because kids learn through play and they gain mastery through play. Like for all I know, she's like, and then the bad guys left and she's just actually trying to gain mastery of it. But sometimes kids do it in play over and over because they're like, nobody's telling me what's happening.

Then they tend to perseverate on it. Your daughter going through it in play, I actually think is adaptive because kids learn through play and they gain mastery through play. Like for all I know, she's like, and then the bad guys left and she's just actually trying to gain mastery of it. But sometimes kids do it in play over and over because they're like, nobody's telling me what's happening.

Then they tend to perseverate on it. Your daughter going through it in play, I actually think is adaptive because kids learn through play and they gain mastery through play. Like for all I know, she's like, and then the bad guys left and she's just actually trying to gain mastery of it. But sometimes kids do it in play over and over because they're like, nobody's telling me what's happening.

So I just have to figure it out. So I would just tell her the story, a version that's appropriate. So again, there's a version of like how truthful only a parent knows the version of truth that, again, isn't avoiding because that just makes kids fear and is developmentally appropriate. But like death is a good example. Some people say weird things. Grandma's in the clouds. Grandma's sleeping.

So I just have to figure it out. So I would just tell her the story, a version that's appropriate. So again, there's a version of like how truthful only a parent knows the version of truth that, again, isn't avoiding because that just makes kids fear and is developmentally appropriate. But like death is a good example. Some people say weird things. Grandma's in the clouds. Grandma's sleeping.

So I just have to figure it out. So I would just tell her the story, a version that's appropriate. So again, there's a version of like how truthful only a parent knows the version of truth that, again, isn't avoiding because that just makes kids fear and is developmentally appropriate. But like death is a good example. Some people say weird things. Grandma's in the clouds. Grandma's sleeping.

Like, What? Grandma died. Death is when the body stopped working.

Like, What? Grandma died. Death is when the body stopped working.

Like, What? Grandma died. Death is when the body stopped working.

Oh, no, we're not going to see her. Thank you for asking me that question. Again, it kind of goes back to resilience. When we believe kids can tolerate something, they become able. to tolerate that thing.

Oh, no, we're not going to see her. Thank you for asking me that question. Again, it kind of goes back to resilience. When we believe kids can tolerate something, they become able. to tolerate that thing.

Oh, no, we're not going to see her. Thank you for asking me that question. Again, it kind of goes back to resilience. When we believe kids can tolerate something, they become able. to tolerate that thing.

And just a line that I find sometimes naming what's true is one of the best things we can do. So it might seem simple, but even just saying to your daughter, you're still thinking a lot about what happened and period. Like that actually is really helpful for a kid. You're just noticing they're processing. We're not fixing. We're just, wow, you're still really thinking about that.

And just a line that I find sometimes naming what's true is one of the best things we can do. So it might seem simple, but even just saying to your daughter, you're still thinking a lot about what happened and period. Like that actually is really helpful for a kid. You're just noticing they're processing. We're not fixing. We're just, wow, you're still really thinking about that.

And just a line that I find sometimes naming what's true is one of the best things we can do. So it might seem simple, but even just saying to your daughter, you're still thinking a lot about what happened and period. Like that actually is really helpful for a kid. You're just noticing they're processing. We're not fixing. We're just, wow, you're still really thinking about that.

That stuck with you. Yeah, I think about that sometimes too. Can actually be a missing piece for a kid in their processing.

That stuck with you. Yeah, I think about that sometimes too. Can actually be a missing piece for a kid in their processing.

That stuck with you. Yeah, I think about that sometimes too. Can actually be a missing piece for a kid in their processing.

No. I think we all, again, like it's one of the main things with kids. We all learn the best when other people are imperfect. None of us like to learn from perfect people. It's full of shame because you're like, I could never be like that. And so I actually bet your audience just is more willing to learn from you and has more trust in you. It's like what I say all the time.

No. I think we all, again, like it's one of the main things with kids. We all learn the best when other people are imperfect. None of us like to learn from perfect people. It's full of shame because you're like, I could never be like that. And so I actually bet your audience just is more willing to learn from you and has more trust in you. It's like what I say all the time.