Dr. Becky Kennedy
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And so unfortunately, I'm not able to make it.
And the reason it's so helpful is the reason most people get upset when you say no is they think it's a reflection of how you feel about them.
And then the reason they say, why can't you come?
No offense.
It's usually not about you.
They feel insecure and they're just trying to undo that feeling.
And so when you state something where someone can really, my language is always locate you,
right?
And I'm sure you too, you know, when you're with someone you can locate that feels so sturdy, they know who they are.
They know their values.
So when you say to someone, I promised myself, I wouldn't add more meetings to my calendar this month.
They don't protest.
I generally get the same response back to that email every time.
Wow.
Thank you for telling me that.
I love the way you said that.
It's like bringing me closer to someone.
And I hope I can say this on this podcast.
Only a real asshole wants you to break a promise with yourself.
I have two.