Dr. Becky Kennedy

I mean, without a doubt, I think that is the main thing. But I'll give you another one. Keeping our kids happy to make it even more extreme, what it does is it steals our kids' capability. We steal it. We make ourselves feel capable in the moment and we make our kids feel not capable because we deprive them of the experience of seeing that they can get through hard things and hard emotions.

I mean, without a doubt, I think that is the main thing. But I'll give you another one. Keeping our kids happy to make it even more extreme, what it does is it steals our kids' capability. We steal it. We make ourselves feel capable in the moment and we make our kids feel not capable because we deprive them of the experience of seeing that they can get through hard things and hard emotions.

I mean, without a doubt, I think that is the main thing. But I'll give you another one. Keeping our kids happy to make it even more extreme, what it does is it steals our kids' capability. We steal it. We make ourselves feel capable in the moment and we make our kids feel not capable because we deprive them of the experience of seeing that they can get through hard things and hard emotions.

So I think that is the biggest thing. I think another version of that is this thing I keep hearing. Am I not supposed to say no to my...

So I think that is the biggest thing. I think another version of that is this thing I keep hearing. Am I not supposed to say no to my...

So I think that is the biggest thing. I think another version of that is this thing I keep hearing. Am I not supposed to say no to my...

kid or I'm not supposed to say no or there's this version of my kid is my friend but again the best friends I have if I was really acting out they would call me out on it like and by the way they do it in a way that lets me know they love me and that's the place they're calling me out from so So I just want parents to think, sure, you want to think about yourself as a friend.

kid or I'm not supposed to say no or there's this version of my kid is my friend but again the best friends I have if I was really acting out they would call me out on it like and by the way they do it in a way that lets me know they love me and that's the place they're calling me out from so So I just want parents to think, sure, you want to think about yourself as a friend.

kid or I'm not supposed to say no or there's this version of my kid is my friend but again the best friends I have if I was really acting out they would call me out on it like and by the way they do it in a way that lets me know they love me and that's the place they're calling me out from so So I just want parents to think, sure, you want to think about yourself as a friend.

A friend doesn't let another friend do everything they want to their own destruction. And so I think bringing these two things together, there's this real short-term focus. Like, act good inside as they were very long-term greedy. in our parenting approach. Your kids are going to be out of your house way longer than they're going to be in your house. And the stakes only get higher.

A friend doesn't let another friend do everything they want to their own destruction. And so I think bringing these two things together, there's this real short-term focus. Like, act good inside as they were very long-term greedy. in our parenting approach. Your kids are going to be out of your house way longer than they're going to be in your house. And the stakes only get higher.

A friend doesn't let another friend do everything they want to their own destruction. And so I think bringing these two things together, there's this real short-term focus. Like, act good inside as they were very long-term greedy. in our parenting approach. Your kids are going to be out of your house way longer than they're going to be in your house. And the stakes only get higher.

So whatever feels hard now, again, it's going to be a bigger stage later on. And the biggest gift you can give your kid What if my kids go into college and adulthood feeling like, I know how to deal with frustration. I know how to bounce back from failure. I know it's okay to feel disappointed and that I have a way to get through it, not just distract myself from it.

So whatever feels hard now, again, it's going to be a bigger stage later on. And the biggest gift you can give your kid What if my kids go into college and adulthood feeling like, I know how to deal with frustration. I know how to bounce back from failure. I know it's okay to feel disappointed and that I have a way to get through it, not just distract myself from it.

So whatever feels hard now, again, it's going to be a bigger stage later on. And the biggest gift you can give your kid What if my kids go into college and adulthood feeling like, I know how to deal with frustration. I know how to bounce back from failure. I know it's okay to feel disappointed and that I have a way to get through it, not just distract myself from it.

I know I'm going to feel jealous of people and I know how to deal with that. That is what makes for really strong, resilient kids. But it requires us to tolerate our own frustration in the moment and not just make a situation easy. I think a lot of people have said to me, like, good inside doesn't really seem like a parenting approach.

I know I'm going to feel jealous of people and I know how to deal with that. That is what makes for really strong, resilient kids. But it requires us to tolerate our own frustration in the moment and not just make a situation easy. I think a lot of people have said to me, like, good inside doesn't really seem like a parenting approach.

I know I'm going to feel jealous of people and I know how to deal with that. That is what makes for really strong, resilient kids. But it requires us to tolerate our own frustration in the moment and not just make a situation easy. I think a lot of people have said to me, like, good inside doesn't really seem like a parenting approach.

Like, it obviously is, but it feels like as applicable to my kids as it does to how I interact with people in the workplace and leadership training. And I think that's all true. I also think we can go a step further. I think these ideas are really relevant to what we see in politics and just in the world in general, where people are increasingly unable to hold two sides.

Like, it obviously is, but it feels like as applicable to my kids as it does to how I interact with people in the workplace and leadership training. And I think that's all true. I also think we can go a step further. I think these ideas are really relevant to what we see in politics and just in the world in general, where people are increasingly unable to hold two sides.