Dr. Benjamin Hardy
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first heard May 2026
last heard 29 May
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And so there's always a why behind every action.
And how psychologists frame it is every goal is either an approach-oriented goal where you're trying to approach what you want or you're trying to avoid what you don't want.
And so the why is always going to either be approaching something you want or avoiding something you don't want, you know?
And so it's...
It's helpful when the why is more approach-oriented.
Sure, you want to avoid bad things from happening, but if everything you're doing is just to avoid negative things from happening, that kind of probably shows that there's a lot of trauma that's unresolved in the past, and so you're trying to avoid a lot of pain.
Well, I mean, it's good to avoid things you don't want.
Like it's good to be strategic about avoiding, call it bad decisions, avoiding bad people.
But if you're always just avoiding, then basically every action you're taking is a reaction against something else.
Like I'm trying to not, but even avoiding things is based on the future.
Like I'm, you know, so I'm like, I'm trying to avoid being out of shape, right?
Like that could be, I don't want to like be obese in the future.
So I'm going to avoid that.
Like that's one way of approaching your future.
Um, but it's far more powerful and more proactive to say, well, what do I, what is it I truly want to approach?
Like, what is it I want to like direct my attention towards and focus on and create?
And yeah, I can avoid landfalls along the way and I can learn from experiences and avoid those kinds of people, or I can avoid those kinds of dumb mistakes.
Like certainly you can avoid things.
But it is very powerful to be proactive and kind of consciously creating like, this is what I want.
And then to watch yourself go and get it.
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