Dr. Caroline Fleck

I hope so. Yeah.

I hope so. Yeah.

I hope so. Yeah.

Yeah, it's it's really this quality of like, I feel accepted. OK, so As human beings, we are different from other animals, not so much in our need for affiliation, but in our need for acceptance. We are seeking acceptance. And when we feel that, it is a powerful experience. And then it's often conveyed in these terms of like, oh, I feel so seen. I feel so hurt.

Yeah, it's it's really this quality of like, I feel accepted. OK, so As human beings, we are different from other animals, not so much in our need for affiliation, but in our need for acceptance. We are seeking acceptance. And when we feel that, it is a powerful experience. And then it's often conveyed in these terms of like, oh, I feel so seen. I feel so hurt.

Yeah, it's it's really this quality of like, I feel accepted. OK, so As human beings, we are different from other animals, not so much in our need for affiliation, but in our need for acceptance. We are seeking acceptance. And when we feel that, it is a powerful experience. And then it's often conveyed in these terms of like, oh, I feel so seen. I feel so hurt.

I feel like someone is looking at me and accepting who I am. And I'll, again, differentiate this from praise. That's different from me giving you a heart emoji on Instagram, which is a form of praise. It says, I like how you look, girl. I like how you perform. Which is fine. If you build your whole life around trying to get as much praise as possible, that's not going to fly well for you. Okay.

I feel like someone is looking at me and accepting who I am. And I'll, again, differentiate this from praise. That's different from me giving you a heart emoji on Instagram, which is a form of praise. It says, I like how you look, girl. I like how you perform. Which is fine. If you build your whole life around trying to get as much praise as possible, that's not going to fly well for you. Okay.

I feel like someone is looking at me and accepting who I am. And I'll, again, differentiate this from praise. That's different from me giving you a heart emoji on Instagram, which is a form of praise. It says, I like how you look, girl. I like how you perform. Which is fine. If you build your whole life around trying to get as much praise as possible, that's not going to fly well for you. Okay.

Which is why we say don't seek external validation. We really mean don't seek excessive praise. But seeking acceptance is a very different thing. And in fact, it's a very human thing. It is critical to our mental health and in some cases, truly our survival.

Which is why we say don't seek external validation. We really mean don't seek excessive praise. But seeking acceptance is a very different thing. And in fact, it's a very human thing. It is critical to our mental health and in some cases, truly our survival.

Which is why we say don't seek external validation. We really mean don't seek excessive praise. But seeking acceptance is a very different thing. And in fact, it's a very human thing. It is critical to our mental health and in some cases, truly our survival.

Absolutely.

Absolutely.

Absolutely.

I mean, in this country, our most extreme form of punishment is isolation. So as human beings, we will seek out negative attention over no attention, okay? It is just so detrimental.

I mean, in this country, our most extreme form of punishment is isolation. So as human beings, we will seek out negative attention over no attention, okay? It is just so detrimental.

I mean, in this country, our most extreme form of punishment is isolation. So as human beings, we will seek out negative attention over no attention, okay? It is just so detrimental.

Yeah.

Yeah.