Dr. Ciara Kelly

So I know you and I also know that you're very good at talking.

You're a very effective communicator.

Do you ever think that sometimes, because we've obviously established that you're great,

that someone rejecting you, that that could be rooted in something completely different, like not something you did, but like a jealousy thing or things like that, because you have to allow for people resenting you or resenting someone for all sorts of reasons.

Now you've reminded me entirely.

I actually did have a friendship that ended when I started doing things publicly, which I've...

casually forgotten.

No, but I didn't end that situation.

But I actually did a fairly neat job in my own head of this is you, not me.

And I don't have the bandwidth for this.

So if you're going to hoof off, that's up to you.

But I don't feel I deserve the hoofing off

And I think if you are on the receiving end, it's important to remember that and say, well, what's happening to me is hurtful.

And I don't know what I actually did to get us to this point, really.

And they're obviously not going to.

tell me which says a few things yes callous but yes maybe and this you know that I think I'm quoting the script again which I think I've done before when a heart break it don't break even I think in friendships there's sometimes someone who's more devoted to the friendship and someone who's a bit less devoted to the friendship I think that's true a lot of relationships and I think with friendships like working and this is not the one I'm talking about here but just in general but maybe the one I'm talking about here too there can be secret jealousies that you're not aware of in the relationship and that someone else might see and you're kind of going what are you talking about

Maybe a bit of rivalry.

I do think it's important for people who are listening, who are, because I think this is probably quite a common thing and a hurtful thing and

for those on the receiving end of it, I think those on the cutting off side of it probably don't even think about it because I think they've cut and run.

So it's a guillotine has come down for them.