Dr. Claire Hart

And therefore, you know, like, so you're anxious, you use your phone because it's fulfilling those needs.

But then because you're using your phone, you're more likely to, you know, fub your partner.

That's right.

And then you get that confirmation bias.

Yeah, that's a really good question.

Because most people, when you say, well, how should you deal with fubbing?

It's just like, well, reduce the amount of time that you spend on your phone.

But I think the trouble is, is that what we're saying is people are using their phones because they need to have certain psychological needs met.

So I think, you know, the interventions really need to be focusing on strengthening, like relationship security, reducing reliance on external validation via means of your phone.

I mean, they're habit forming.

They're designed to be that way.

So try to find other more healthy ways that could perhaps involve your partner.

But reflect on the values that drive your digital habits as well.

So if you're craving reassurance, ask for reassurance.

you know, from your partner.

Don't just assume that they're going to give it to you.

Just ask for it.

That's right.

Yeah.

So have open communications with with each other about, you know, what do you want from your relationship?