Dr. Clare Crowe

So, you know, it is that thing of, you know, it doesn't need to be a games night.

We don't need to Americanize this.

But it could be something really small, like let's do something that you choose once a week.

Maybe it's kicking a football around or maybe it's like there's gorgeous, like collaborative board games where you can work as teams, like what's called Pandemic or Codenames.

Those kind of games where you're both against the enemy, which is the game.

And you're just doing something that feels a little bit at odds to what you usually do.

It's a really interesting suggestion.

Yeah.

So I always do a five minute rule, which is we can do this for five minutes and then you're free to go.

So, again, just to say like, you know, like that idea of activation precedes motivation.

You kind of have to be doing it to actually start to enjoy it.

And like it might be just, you know, throwing a few basketballs in a hoop or whatever it is, let them choose it.

And that's why their choice is so important, because at least then you're you're going into their space.

You're not saying, oh, God, I hate board games.

You're saying, OK.

OK, if this is what brings you fun and enjoyment, I'm going to share in that fun and enjoyment.

Yes, that's so true.

So, you know, we talk about with our smaller kids, you know, we kneel down for eye contact and we're always kind of connecting with them that way.

And of course, suddenly you have a teenager and they're the same height, if not taller than you.

And eye contact at a point where you suddenly feel self-conscious is awful.