Dr. Clare Crowe

You do not want to be directly looking at your teenager when they're trying to open up about something that feels very personal or private sideline.

So I always think, you know, back and forth to matches or just that space in the car or walking.

But generally it's drive time is the time when parents tell me that's when I learned about this, you know, big event.

You're doing something that's fun because you'll often find, parents will say to me, gosh, with, I don't know, with her older sibling, she plays GAA, so I kind of have a thing with her.

And then you suddenly have the next child who doesn't have that connection.

And actually, it's really about that child where you feel the disconnect, where you feel the distance.

That's where games become something to say, actually, for you, I need to do something different and I need to do it on your terms.

I had a mom previously and she

She was such a gorgeous mom, but she was really like distant from her daughter.

And she went on this really extravagant holiday and did everything her daughter wanted.

She came home and I can honestly tell you, Clare, she could not afford bread.

She'd asked someone for a loaf of bread that week.

She'd gone to such lengths to build their relationship.

But that's not how we build relationship.

We build it in these really micro moments over time.

That's why I'm saying break it down.

Don't have this huge extravagant holiday.

Have these tiny moments during each week that say.

Regularly.

Regularly.