Dr. Dacher Keltner
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first heard Apr 2026
last heard 6 Apr
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And I noticed people got embarrassed after they were startled unexpectedly.
You'd blast them with a noise out of the blue in the lab and they'd be like...
Whoa, I think I spit and, you know, peed my pants or whatever.
They show this response and I took it to Ekman and it's the blush and people avert their gaze and they look away and they hide their face, you know.
And he's like, that's a motor pattern of emotion.
You should go study it.
And I did.
And then I started to notice, and there's a really rich literature on that that, and Darwin wrote about this, that a person's embarrassment is a sign of,
of their commitment to the collective, right?
Like, man, you know, I called you by the wrong name or, you know, I farted in the yoga class or whatever it is.
And I'm embarrassed.
Like, I'm sorry, man.
You know, I apologize.
That really matters.
And when you see people get embarrassed, you like them more and you trust them more and you give resources to them and you think they're a good group member.
And then I was like, man, you know, like I've played a lot of pickup basketball in my life, thousands of games.
And you're banging into, and there's just a lot of teasing and taunting and, you know, people I admire, you know, great athletes tease and taunt, you know, it's just part of what we do and we're banging into each other.
And I started to put it together, like.
You know, the right kind of teasing within a collective, you're kind of provoking people to see if they care about the group.
Right.
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