Dr. Daniel Hai

I connect them with clients

case managers that can actually bring them the right kind of people around them.

And I try to make a collaborative approach because I think.

Maybe that's where they come to me from, honestly, if that's all they want.

No.

I'm just, I kid.

No, no, yeah.

No, we talk about why that's so important and why they can't find that inside and why they think that that's going to like save their lives all of a sudden and why that sort of approach may lead to deep codependency and why that's not a great approach.

Just, I just need a relationship and I'll be happy.

Be happy before so you can be happier and wholly together with another person.

Don't expect the other person to make you happy.

That's way too much pressure on a human being.

I do my best in terms of helping them understand that the world doesn't revolve around them and that- That's painful.

That's the truth.

Grandiosity is a bitch and someone needs to pull up a mirror and say, hey, you have to see past yourself if you want to connect with someone else.

And in order to do that, you have to listen.

And in order to listen, that's how you find out what someone else's love language is.

taking a step back, looking at the bigger picture, that's a huge thing.

And I think it's fundamental in good therapy.

And that's something that's good with not just