Dr. Daniel Hai

Generally, what I do is I have a discussion with the team.

I don't want to humiliate anybody or myself or the client.

No, no.

Yes.

And I try to put mine in check all day, every day.

I look in the mirror and I try to make sure it's not my baggage.

But at the end of the day, yes, I've gotten there and I have taken people that I have been with me for years out of treatments to different places that I thought were better for them because the team wasn't aligned in a collaborative approach.

That's right.

That's exactly right.

The client is my boss and that's how I do it.

i want an egalitarian approach where the client learns to trust themselves and i don't tell them what to do with their own life i don't want them dependent on me i want them to leave me eventually and come back later and if they need maintenance work with me that's fine but that's where it ends i am not an enabler and i will never be that therapist that's a grandmother that's sitting there petting someone who's stuck in the same circle their whole life

Five pillars or two or three.

I think one.

I think I have to look at, first of all, where they came from and what it is that they want in order to build a proper foundation.

To me, that means a strong support system, A. No support system, forget it.

I try.

So it comes in, no support system.

I go to 12-step meetings with them at times when they're scared to go.

There's some 12-step meetings that maybe the client doesn't agree with, and maybe I don't either, so we leave, and we try to find the ones that actually vibrate with the client, and I try to meet people there.

That's the exposure I'm talking about.