Dr. Darby Saxbe

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Modern Wisdom · The Painful Psychological Cost Of Becoming A Dad - Darby Saxbe - #1129 · 27 Jul 2026 podcast

And anecdotally, I hear from moms who say, yeah, my husband's been taking tea and he has no patience with the baby.

Who knows?

We need better, more rigorous studies to see if that's actually true.

Exactly.

So there's a trade-off.

The baby's growing up with a jacked dad.

Well, and in some

context that could be really good like if you have to fight your way out of a cage to get a leg of lamb for your kid then you probably want high testosterone in early parenthood but that might not serve the style of fatherhood that is more desired presumably as well if that environment was the one that you were in your body would detect it and go hey there's some more testosterone for you as opposed to you going no shut up a thousand nanograms per deciliter is absolutely fine like

Yeah, when we're in a risky or competitive environment, men want higher testosterone that's going to serve their goals.

It's not always going to serve their goals when they're in a parenting environment.

And so, you know, I think the thing about supplementation is we sort of have this idea that...

manliness is about maintaining perpetually high T. I think actually positive masculinity is more about adaptability, being flexible and showing up in the way that you need to for changing situations.

This was something I worried about when writing this book and trying to summarize the science around fatherhood is that the subtitle I joked for a while would be fatherhood gives you a smaller brain, makes you sleepier, sadder, fatter, and have lower testosterone.

But it's really good.

Jared.

It'll give you... So I don't think that would... That wouldn't sell very many books.

And we've talked about some of the benefits of fatherhood, like an increased sense of meaning and purpose and neuroprotection in late life.

I would argue that being a good dad is one of the most manly things you can do.

You're literally rearing the next generation.

You're guiding them.

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