Dr. David Burns

A couple of days after you've been working and that just shows you have a brain just like mine, that you have a nice subconscious mind that works overtime for you when you're not thinking about it.

A couple of days after you've been working and that just shows you have a brain just like mine, that you have a nice subconscious mind that works overtime for you when you're not thinking about it.

Yeah, it took us five hours together.

Yeah, it took us five hours together.

You have to buy my book, Intimate Connections, and read the appendix to find out because I can't remember right now. But again, the answer to it is it's the same as what we've been telling people in today's podcast. The problem is not that she isn't good enough. What is her problem, Rhonda?

You have to buy my book, Intimate Connections, and read the appendix to find out because I can't remember right now. But again, the answer to it is it's the same as what we've been telling people in today's podcast. The problem is not that she isn't good enough. What is her problem, Rhonda?

Yeah, she's beating up on herself.

Yeah, she's beating up on herself.

Now, let me ask you, let's say that she's going to pick up her child at school. And she finds out her child is out playing with other children on the swings and things. Would she go out into the schoolyard and go up to those children one at a time and say, gee, the way you're swinging is just average. That's not Olympic quality. There's nothing special about you.

Now, let me ask you, let's say that she's going to pick up her child at school. And she finds out her child is out playing with other children on the swings and things. Would she go out into the schoolyard and go up to those children one at a time and say, gee, the way you're swinging is just average. That's not Olympic quality. There's nothing special about you.

Why not?

Why not?

That's the point. You know, happiness comes from self-love. And self-love is a decision you make, not something you can earn. And that's a Christian concept. I don't know if it's also a Jewish concept or... or an Islamic concept, but the Christian idea is that you don't get to heaven through your good works, but from the grace of God.

That's the point. You know, happiness comes from self-love. And self-love is a decision you make, not something you can earn. And that's a Christian concept. I don't know if it's also a Jewish concept or... or an Islamic concept, but the Christian idea is that you don't get to heaven through your good works, but from the grace of God.

And the grace of God is the grace of a colleague who treats you in a loving way, or the grace you give yourself to treat yourself in a loving and compassionate way. And that's the meaning of God. Exactly.

And the grace of God is the grace of a colleague who treats you in a loving way, or the grace you give yourself to treat yourself in a loving and compassionate way. And that's the meaning of God. Exactly.

Exactly. Yeah. Exactly.

Exactly. Yeah. Exactly.

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Yeah. And keep sending us your great questions because we really love answering your questions.