Dr. David Burns

And if you're the kind of person who finds it hard to admit that, because you think, like so many of us have been taught, if you love someone, you'll never have conflict with them. You'll never be angry with them. And actually, the great thing about anxiety and recovery from it is it teaches us that there's far more to being human than what we think.

And it had to do with your theme, Matt, of accepting. Yeah, maybe these impulses are telling me I have some anger and some discomfort in this situation.

And it had to do with your theme, Matt, of accepting. Yeah, maybe these impulses are telling me I have some anger and some discomfort in this situation.

And it would be time to express those feelings and open up and maybe read Feeling Good Together, learn the five secrets of effective communication, and use this as an opportunity to communicate with your wife and maybe son on a deeper and more open level. That would be my kind of simple take on it.

And it would be time to express those feelings and open up and maybe read Feeling Good Together, learn the five secrets of effective communication, and use this as an opportunity to communicate with your wife and maybe son on a deeper and more open level. That would be my kind of simple take on it.

And I've just found that is so often true in my own life because I've had, as you both know, so many forms of anxiety myself. And I've also had this niceness phenomenon that when something comes up and it's upsetting to me, I can't remember what I'm angry about or what I'm upset about. I just feel like the world's going to come to an end.

And I've just found that is so often true in my own life because I've had, as you both know, so many forms of anxiety myself. And I've also had this niceness phenomenon that when something comes up and it's upsetting to me, I can't remember what I'm angry about or what I'm upset about. I just feel like the world's going to come to an end.

And then that's my body's way of telling me, David, you're upset with somebody or with something in your life. And your body is telling you to attend to that. And then when I figure out what it is and deal with the problem or express the feelings, in most cases my anxiety, whew, completely disappears. And I suspect that's what's going on here.

And then that's my body's way of telling me, David, you're upset with somebody or with something in your life. And your body is telling you to attend to that. And then when I figure out what it is and deal with the problem or express the feelings, in most cases my anxiety, whew, completely disappears. And I suspect that's what's going on here.

We can't treat anyone or give out medical advice in this forum. We're just talking on a general level. But it certainly looks an awful lot like that to me. And this would be something for Rudolfo to consider. And I think I did raise this issue with him. And my memory of it is that he kind of did resonate with that and might be... going in that direction.

We can't treat anyone or give out medical advice in this forum. We're just talking on a general level. But it certainly looks an awful lot like that to me. And this would be something for Rudolfo to consider. And I think I did raise this issue with him. And my memory of it is that he kind of did resonate with that and might be... going in that direction.

So maybe he can get back to us later if he hears this podcast and checks it out and let us know what happened.

So maybe he can get back to us later if he hears this podcast and checks it out and let us know what happened.

Kind of positive reframing and acceptance.

Kind of positive reframing and acceptance.

You mean it's okay for me to have these horrible, intrusive thoughts of death to my loved ones? It's okay for other people, but not for you. Okay, great. And I had a similar one in my past. A doctor came to me. He was the nicest guy in the world, and he was working in a low community with few resources.

You mean it's okay for me to have these horrible, intrusive thoughts of death to my loved ones? It's okay for other people, but not for you. Okay, great. And I had a similar one in my past. A doctor came to me. He was the nicest guy in the world, and he was working in a low community with few resources.

He was a general practitioner and spending a lot of extra time talking to people and helping them out. He was just working a 60-hour week and making very little income. And then when he had, then he and his wife had their first baby, and he had something very similar to your patients, Matt.

He was a general practitioner and spending a lot of extra time talking to people and helping them out. He was just working a 60-hour week and making very little income. And then when he had, then he and his wife had their first baby, and he had something very similar to your patients, Matt.

When he would carry the baby, they lived on the second floor of an apartment building, and he would have the fantasy, what if I go and throw the baby over the, not fall over, but throw the baby out of the balcony, over the edge, and kill the baby that way. And it turned out to be a very similar thing that what he wasn't dealing with was the fact that, you know, a baby.