Dr. David Burns

because I exchanged a couple more emails from Rudolfo, and I probably should have included them in the show notes, but I've been really overwhelmed on 10, 11, 12-hour days, so my time has been a little shorter. But what was very interesting that he was saying, and this is some hints for you guys, that he has intrusive thoughts that somebody's murdering his wife or his

doing something to hurt his son and he says it's usually not himself but maybe sometimes himself and he says he loves them to death and he would never do anything to hurt them but he doesn't know why he's having these intrusive images and he doesn't know what to do about it. And now that you guys have some hidden hints, what is the cause and cure?

doing something to hurt his son and he says it's usually not himself but maybe sometimes himself and he says he loves them to death and he would never do anything to hurt them but he doesn't know why he's having these intrusive images and he doesn't know what to do about it. And now that you guys have some hidden hints, what is the cause and cure?

And my comment is, why exactly is he having these thoughts and what would be the sudden 100% cure?

And my comment is, why exactly is he having these thoughts and what would be the sudden 100% cure?

Those are some good and beautiful thoughts. Have any of you ever heard about the hidden emotion technique? When people are anxious, there's often some, the symptoms of the anxiety are often trying to tell us something. Our subconscious mind is trying to tell us something that our conscious mind can't accept because we're too nice. That's the hidden emotion model.

Those are some good and beautiful thoughts. Have any of you ever heard about the hidden emotion technique? When people are anxious, there's often some, the symptoms of the anxiety are often trying to tell us something. Our subconscious mind is trying to tell us something that our conscious mind can't accept because we're too nice. That's the hidden emotion model.

And I'll spill out what I'm thinking if it doesn't pop into your minds.

And I'll spill out what I'm thinking if it doesn't pop into your minds.

Right.

Right.

Exactly. And why does it have to come out through intrusive thoughts? Why doesn't he just acknowledge to himself that he's angry and talk it over with her?

Exactly. And why does it have to come out through intrusive thoughts? Why doesn't he just acknowledge to himself that he's angry and talk it over with her?

Yeah, niceness, excessive niceness is one of the common... major themes in all anxiety. 75% of anxious people have this hidden emotion phenomenon. And so I think what's going on is he's this very nice, conscientious fellow. I think we'd all love him if we knew him. But like the rest of us, we sometimes, well, most of us don't get irritable with the people we care about. Isn't that true, Rhonda?

Yeah, niceness, excessive niceness is one of the common... major themes in all anxiety. 75% of anxious people have this hidden emotion phenomenon. And so I think what's going on is he's this very nice, conscientious fellow. I think we'd all love him if we knew him. But like the rest of us, we sometimes, well, most of us don't get irritable with the people we care about. Isn't that true, Rhonda?

Yeah.

Yeah.

Yeah. And then if you have a way of sweeping these feelings under the rug, they come out indirectly. And your anxiety is your body's way of telling you, hey, attend to this. This is your subconscious mind talking to you. I'm the poetry of your subconscious mind. and you see something happening to kill your wife, is it possible that you're feeling some anger toward your wife and son?

Yeah. And then if you have a way of sweeping these feelings under the rug, they come out indirectly. And your anxiety is your body's way of telling you, hey, attend to this. This is your subconscious mind talking to you. I'm the poetry of your subconscious mind. and you see something happening to kill your wife, is it possible that you're feeling some anger toward your wife and son?

And if you're the kind of person who finds it hard to admit that, because you think, like so many of us have been taught, if you love someone, you'll never have conflict with them. You'll never be angry with them. And actually, the great thing about anxiety and recovery from it is it teaches us that there's far more to being human than what we think.