Dr. David Burns

Maybe not. I think these things, you've got to reflect on it. Let's do a role reversal, and Manuel will show us the huge win. Manuel, I'm just going to tell everyone in school that you're a little slut and a whore, and you probably want to suck my dick, you little fucking whore. I'm going to tell everybody. I can give the answer to it, too, if you want. You want to hear the response?

Yeah, let's hear the response. Yeah, please do. In fact, my cousin is a reporter for the local newspaper, and you could talk to him and tell him. He might even write it up and quote you. You could get some really cool publicity that way.

Yeah, let's hear the response. Yeah, please do. In fact, my cousin is a reporter for the local newspaper, and you could talk to him and tell him. He might even write it up and quote you. You could get some really cool publicity that way.

Well, I'll repeat what I've said two or three times during this podcast, and some people may hear it and some people may not. But it starts with the internal dialogue, and you've got to be able to talk back to your own thoughts. Those statements could never have an effect on a human being. Those statements do not upset children in grammar school.

Well, I'll repeat what I've said two or three times during this podcast, and some people may hear it and some people may not. But it starts with the internal dialogue, and you've got to be able to talk back to your own thoughts. Those statements could never have an effect on a human being. Those statements do not upset children in grammar school.

only what they're telling themselves, and that's where the work begins. And once the person is no longer feeling threatened by their own inner self-abuse, then it's much easier to take a lighthearted response to someone else who's trying to bully you.

only what they're telling themselves, and that's where the work begins. And once the person is no longer feeling threatened by their own inner self-abuse, then it's much easier to take a lighthearted response to someone else who's trying to bully you.

And a little humor, stroking, disarming, non-defensiveness. Just say, yeah, if you just spread those slut rumors, I would appreciate it, because that's actually one of my lesser flaws, and my status might actually go up a little bit. Yeah.

And a little humor, stroking, disarming, non-defensiveness. Just say, yeah, if you just spread those slut rumors, I would appreciate it, because that's actually one of my lesser flaws, and my status might actually go up a little bit. Yeah.

Yeah, right. Well, why doesn't maybe Matt and then Rhonda and then Manuel and David, or we can have Rhonda be the last word, just summarize kind of what we've been doing today. And I don't know if it was any good or not. I have... I went into hypnotic states of helplessness and awfulness when you were describing, you know, being bullied in really adverse circumstances.

Yeah, right. Well, why doesn't maybe Matt and then Rhonda and then Manuel and David, or we can have Rhonda be the last word, just summarize kind of what we've been doing today. And I don't know if it was any good or not. I have... I went into hypnotic states of helplessness and awfulness when you were describing, you know, being bullied in really adverse circumstances.

And I, you know, I was bullied by this guy named Red in like seventh grade or sixth grade. And he says, why don't you come on over to my house and I'll fight you right now. And, you know, I didn't obviously go over to his house, but it was very humiliating. And I'd like to run into that guy and bust his effing nose even today.

And I, you know, I was bullied by this guy named Red in like seventh grade or sixth grade. And he says, why don't you come on over to my house and I'll fight you right now. And, you know, I didn't obviously go over to his house, but it was very humiliating. And I'd like to run into that guy and bust his effing nose even today.

Red, if you're listening to this podcast, I'm ready for you now, big boy. You're not dead already, and I hope you are.

Red, if you're listening to this podcast, I'm ready for you now, big boy. You're not dead already, and I hope you are.

Well, I just wanted to ask Manuel one thing before. I want to hear your summary, Matt. But Manuel, you said that you were going to tell us the signs for parents and teachers to look out. Like that kid in my neighborhood who was bullied for a school year, and nobody identified it. How can parents or teachers identify if a kid's being bullied?

Well, I just wanted to ask Manuel one thing before. I want to hear your summary, Matt. But Manuel, you said that you were going to tell us the signs for parents and teachers to look out. Like that kid in my neighborhood who was bullied for a school year, and nobody identified it. How can parents or teachers identify if a kid's being bullied?

Great. Thank you.

Great. Thank you.

I have two other small contributions. I think kids will always tell you how they're feeling if you ask in a specific way. Like if they understand 0 to 100 or 0 to 10, you could just say you look like you might be feeling a little sad or down or unhappy. How unhappy are you feeling on, say, a 0 to 10 scale? Hmm.