Dr. David Coleman

Oh, for sure, keep it out of the bedroom.

Sorry, I almost think that kind of goes without saying yes.

I'm a big fan of keeping phones in public areas of the house.

So, you know, it may be the case that it should never go upstairs.

It should never be in the bathroom alone with the child either.

So they shouldn't be allowed to take it into the bathroom because you'll find, again, you know, 12-year-old boys...

just being in the bathroom for an hour you know with their phone and so they're not just sitting in the toilet for an hour they're not showering for an hour so what are they doing with their phone in there for an hour and so it's all those kinds of situations that just mean that they're more likely to end up in in more dangerous situations in terms of the content that they're

So bed wetting is often has a kind of a developmental maturity element to it.

And so there are just some children for whom, you know, staying dry at night just doesn't develop until a particular age.

So sometimes it's 11 or 12.

Definitely, if you haven't been for a GP checkup with regard to the bedwetting, I would just go just to make sure that there are no other issues in terms of his whole kind of system and assuming that's okay.

The one thing that I think is more effective than others when it comes to bedwetting are the pants that have the little sensors in them that get hooked up to an alarm.

And so what happens then is that your child wears those pants so they just look like normal pants.

Underpants, they wear those going to bed.

And if they start to wee, the sensor picks it up and alarm goes off.

excuse me they wake up or you wake up as has been the experience of many parents that their child manages to sleep through the alarm but at least the parent is is woken up and so that interrupts the wee and then they can go and finish off in the toilet and so what that's doing is helping to train their alertness to the fact that their body is ready to release urine and that's the key thing i think when it comes to the developmental maturity with with bed wetting

difficult situation i'm i'm interested in the dynamic that developed before he became 16 so the you know my guess is that that kind of um just um what would you say um i don't know well they're calling it tantrums you know when he doesn't get his own way but but that's not something that's just developed because he's a teenager that seems to me to be something that's probably due to a dynamic that is built up in terms of his expectations of

you know what is and isn't okay for him in terms of independence and so on and so the thing that always comes back to me when it comes to teenagers and their behavior is that most teenage behavior is very manageable when the quality of the relationship that we have with them is good and so part of that then comes from them but part of it also significantly comes from us as parents and so we have a responsibility to maintain that relationship positively because the more positive it is the more

we have to influence them.

So when we ask them not to do something, they don't do it simply because they don't want to upset us rather than because we have the authority to tell them not to do it.