Dr. David Rosmarin

I love your specific example of parents and children. Little Jimmy or Jenny comes home. They feel a little bit anxious. And the parent themselves is a little anxious themselves. And they're freaked out about the fact that their kid is feeling anxious. So what do they do? Try to put out the fire. They try to calm them down. They try to say everything's going to be okay. They give them reassurance.

Say, you don't have to go to school. Don't worry. You don't have to go to that event. We accommodate them. As opposed to... Oh, you're feeling anxious. That sounds interesting. Tell me more. With no judgment, just explore it and actually create a more deep connection between parent and child. Ask questions. What is little Jimmy or Jenny afraid of and why? Is it embarrassment?

Say, you don't have to go to school. Don't worry. You don't have to go to that event. We accommodate them. As opposed to... Oh, you're feeling anxious. That sounds interesting. Tell me more. With no judgment, just explore it and actually create a more deep connection between parent and child. Ask questions. What is little Jimmy or Jenny afraid of and why? Is it embarrassment?

Say, you don't have to go to school. Don't worry. You don't have to go to that event. We accommodate them. As opposed to... Oh, you're feeling anxious. That sounds interesting. Tell me more. With no judgment, just explore it and actually create a more deep connection between parent and child. Ask questions. What is little Jimmy or Jenny afraid of and why? Is it embarrassment?

Are they afraid of messing up and being overly responsible? Are they afraid of the physical sensations? Do they feel like a failure? Are they afraid of losing friends? ask them lots of questions. And without trying to change it, don't try to change how they're thinking, how they're feeling, their behavior in any way. Just be there with them while they feel anxious.

Are they afraid of messing up and being overly responsible? Are they afraid of the physical sensations? Do they feel like a failure? Are they afraid of losing friends? ask them lots of questions. And without trying to change it, don't try to change how they're thinking, how they're feeling, their behavior in any way. Just be there with them while they feel anxious.

Are they afraid of messing up and being overly responsible? Are they afraid of the physical sensations? Do they feel like a failure? Are they afraid of losing friends? ask them lots of questions. And without trying to change it, don't try to change how they're thinking, how they're feeling, their behavior in any way. Just be there with them while they feel anxious.

They just want you to connect with them. Turn into a point of connection as opposed to a moment of education. We are missing this fundamental perspective on anxiety and it's having disastrous consequences for those micro moments. We judge others, we judge ourselves for feeling anxious and we go down the tubes in a hot second because of it.

They just want you to connect with them. Turn into a point of connection as opposed to a moment of education. We are missing this fundamental perspective on anxiety and it's having disastrous consequences for those micro moments. We judge others, we judge ourselves for feeling anxious and we go down the tubes in a hot second because of it.

They just want you to connect with them. Turn into a point of connection as opposed to a moment of education. We are missing this fundamental perspective on anxiety and it's having disastrous consequences for those micro moments. We judge others, we judge ourselves for feeling anxious and we go down the tubes in a hot second because of it.

Definitely don't do that. You're just actually making it worse because why? Because you're conveying a message. I wouldn't even say it's subliminal or subconscious. It's direct. You are directly showing your child something is wrong here, and they become afraid of their anxiety as a result.

Definitely don't do that. You're just actually making it worse because why? Because you're conveying a message. I wouldn't even say it's subliminal or subconscious. It's direct. You are directly showing your child something is wrong here, and they become afraid of their anxiety as a result.

Definitely don't do that. You're just actually making it worse because why? Because you're conveying a message. I wouldn't even say it's subliminal or subconscious. It's direct. You are directly showing your child something is wrong here, and they become afraid of their anxiety as a result.

misinterpreting it as a problem or a weakness or a disease or that something is wrong with you, as opposed to this is a normal human emotion. And then once we accept that, What do I do with it?

misinterpreting it as a problem or a weakness or a disease or that something is wrong with you, as opposed to this is a normal human emotion. And then once we accept that, What do I do with it?

misinterpreting it as a problem or a weakness or a disease or that something is wrong with you, as opposed to this is a normal human emotion. And then once we accept that, What do I do with it?

Sure. The four steps are as follows. Identify, share, embrace, and let go. I'll explain each one. Identify means getting to the root. What are you truly afraid of? Instead of putting it out of your mind, instead of squelching the symptoms, go there. Think about it. Get to what's actually bothering you. Two, share. Talk about it with someone else. Open up about it.

Sure. The four steps are as follows. Identify, share, embrace, and let go. I'll explain each one. Identify means getting to the root. What are you truly afraid of? Instead of putting it out of your mind, instead of squelching the symptoms, go there. Think about it. Get to what's actually bothering you. Two, share. Talk about it with someone else. Open up about it.

Sure. The four steps are as follows. Identify, share, embrace, and let go. I'll explain each one. Identify means getting to the root. What are you truly afraid of? Instead of putting it out of your mind, instead of squelching the symptoms, go there. Think about it. Get to what's actually bothering you. Two, share. Talk about it with someone else. Open up about it.

Make it a point of connection as opposed to sitting in a state of loneliness. Three, embrace your favorite. Do that which makes you feel anxious when you're ready and at a rate that you're comfortable with. But that is the path for emotional resilience. And finally, let go. There are certain things we can't control. Anxiety is always surrounded around control.