Dr. Ellen Langer

if you're going to actively notice, you're going to see that things depend on context.

You're going to see that, well, this person, you're right-handed, but I'm looking at you right now, assuming you were left-handed, and we had a culture in the past that tried to make you right-handed.

Fine.

There's an advantage to being left-handed.

There's an advantage to being right-handed.

We don't want to

homogenize on every dimension.

Well, first of all, we have to be more specific about what you think you're lacking.

If it's anything material, it's in order to get people's approval.

And why do you want people's approval?

Because then you will have a better sense of your own self.

We don't need any of that, you know, that you can make yourself.

If we just go back to what I just said about realizing that everybody doesn't know something, but everybody knows something else.

So what do you know?

What can you do?

And if you spend your moments doing those things so that you're happy,

The problems all go away.

I gave a lecture down in Australia many years ago and unexpectedly she called all the speakers, so we're all sitting on stage, and then she asked each of them what was their bucket list.

So now she comes to me and I don't have a bucket list.

I said, you don't want to have a bucket list?