Dr. Ellen Langer

You know, at some point I might say, look in the audience and see if there's usually a man. Is there a man here? It's about 6'5". Somebody always there. I don't know why. 6'5 men find me attractive. I don't know why. Anyway, I invite him to the stage and then we look ridiculous. I'm 5'3". He's 6'5". And I asked him to put his hand. He puts his hand up. His hand is three inches larger than mine.

You know, at some point I might say, look in the audience and see if there's usually a man. Is there a man here? It's about 6'5". Somebody always there. I don't know why. 6'5 men find me attractive. I don't know why. Anyway, I invite him to the stage and then we look ridiculous. I'm 5'3". He's 6'5". And I asked him to put his hand. He puts his hand up. His hand is three inches larger than mine.

You know, at some point I might say, look in the audience and see if there's usually a man. Is there a man here? It's about 6'5". Somebody always there. I don't know why. 6'5 men find me attractive. I don't know why. Anyway, I invite him to the stage and then we look ridiculous. I'm 5'3". He's 6'5". And I asked him to put his hand. He puts his hand up. His hand is three inches larger than mine.

And then I just raised the question, should we do anything physical the same? And it's ridiculous. But one of us is teaching how to do it. So the more different you are from the person who wrote the rule, the more important it is for you not to mindlessly follow the rule.

And then I just raised the question, should we do anything physical the same? And it's ridiculous. But one of us is teaching how to do it. So the more different you are from the person who wrote the rule, the more important it is for you not to mindlessly follow the rule.

And then I just raised the question, should we do anything physical the same? And it's ridiculous. But one of us is teaching how to do it. So the more different you are from the person who wrote the rule, the more important it is for you not to mindlessly follow the rule.

So you don't hold the tennis racket like this if your hand is half the size of the person who – or twice the size or anything else. And people don't realize it, that everything that is was a decision. For something to be a decision means there was uncertainty. As soon as the decision is made, we forget all that uncertainty and act as if this is the way it's supposed to be.

So you don't hold the tennis racket like this if your hand is half the size of the person who – or twice the size or anything else. And people don't realize it, that everything that is was a decision. For something to be a decision means there was uncertainty. As soon as the decision is made, we forget all that uncertainty and act as if this is the way it's supposed to be.

So you don't hold the tennis racket like this if your hand is half the size of the person who – or twice the size or anything else. And people don't realize it, that everything that is was a decision. For something to be a decision means there was uncertainty. As soon as the decision is made, we forget all that uncertainty and act as if this is the way it's supposed to be.

An example I often use, you know, tennis. So you have—and everybody, when you think about this, and nobody's going to argue that, of course, the rules to tennis weren't handed down from the heavens. Somebody decided it should be two serves, and that's fine. But for me, three serves would be better. The first time, I kill it. It doesn't go in.

An example I often use, you know, tennis. So you have—and everybody, when you think about this, and nobody's going to argue that, of course, the rules to tennis weren't handed down from the heavens. Somebody decided it should be two serves, and that's fine. But for me, three serves would be better. The first time, I kill it. It doesn't go in.

An example I often use, you know, tennis. So you have—and everybody, when you think about this, and nobody's going to argue that, of course, the rules to tennis weren't handed down from the heavens. Somebody decided it should be two serves, and that's fine. But for me, three serves would be better. The first time, I kill it. It doesn't go in.

Now I'm afraid to try to kill it again and learn from that because I don't want to double fold. So I have a little wuss second serve. I had three serves. I kill it. It doesn't go in. Now I learn from that. I kill it again, but I'm getting a little better. And I still have my backup third serve. All right. So what is the point of that?

Now I'm afraid to try to kill it again and learn from that because I don't want to double fold. So I have a little wuss second serve. I had three serves. I kill it. It doesn't go in. Now I learn from that. I kill it again, but I'm getting a little better. And I still have my backup third serve. All right. So what is the point of that?

Now I'm afraid to try to kill it again and learn from that because I don't want to double fold. So I have a little wuss second serve. I had three serves. I kill it. It doesn't go in. Now I learn from that. I kill it again, but I'm getting a little better. And I still have my backup third serve. All right. So what is the point of that?

That if I wrote the rules to the game, I would be a better tennis player. you would be better at whatever you're writing the rules to. So you think differently about yourself. You don't feel bad about it. In fact, you know, when people play tennis with me, we often play three serves. Why not? everything about it is up for grabs.

That if I wrote the rules to the game, I would be a better tennis player. you would be better at whatever you're writing the rules to. So you think differently about yourself. You don't feel bad about it. In fact, you know, when people play tennis with me, we often play three serves. Why not? everything about it is up for grabs.

That if I wrote the rules to the game, I would be a better tennis player. you would be better at whatever you're writing the rules to. So you think differently about yourself. You don't feel bad about it. In fact, you know, when people play tennis with me, we often play three serves. Why not? everything about it is up for grabs.

And so what happens is the lower down you are on the totem pole, the fewer of these things, games, ways of being that you yourself have created, the more you're trying to fit yourself into some form that isn't so comfortable. So we need to appreciate that rules laws. Everything was just somebody's decision about how things should be. And, you know, don't violate them purposely.

And so what happens is the lower down you are on the totem pole, the fewer of these things, games, ways of being that you yourself have created, the more you're trying to fit yourself into some form that isn't so comfortable. So we need to appreciate that rules laws. Everything was just somebody's decision about how things should be. And, you know, don't violate them purposely.